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Post by time4truth on Jan 29, 2006 22:17:46 GMT -5
While I've been through literally thousands of unsolved crime cases and researched serial killers, abusers, and violent behavior in general, I've never once thought of the cases as entertainment. I do not research for anything other than personal knowledge and trying to learn of better ways to help protect my family by informing them of high risk situations. I normally don't join message boards but I felt like I should explain that maybe some folks do not want entertainment by listening to or asking for the horrid details of another persons sorrow (something I'd never consider) but just trying to educate themselves. I had never thought of the possibility that some would be that macabre and selfish and I am truly sorry that people can be so cruel.
Peace be with you and yours.
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Post by toniga on Jan 30, 2006 21:47:42 GMT -5
I am glad you don't see it as entertainment.I am glad you use the information to become aware.One day I hope to use what I know for something productive.It's nice to know that people care.Thanks.
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Post by purples on Feb 1, 2006 13:00:12 GMT -5
To even think that others use our sorrow for entertainment makes me ill!! It's much harder than in the movies! In fact i have trouble watching movies. There is so much violence on tv these days. I think everyone should have a little compassion for others. You never know until your there! I'm so thankful for this site! It reassures strength to me! Thanks Guys
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Feb 2, 2006 18:36:16 GMT -5
Dear Time4truth, thanks for your post. It's great to see your concern about these issues. Take care.
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Post by meme on Mar 4, 2006 20:19:27 GMT -5
When people assume you "get over it" and ask if you are okay I want to scream "NO, AND I NEVER WILL GET OVER IT"! _______________________________________________________ In my case, the daughter of the victim had just turned 18, and will have to testify about her mother killing her dad, or for both the prosecution and the defense. Since the dad is dead, she wants to hold on to the only parent she has left. What a horrible position to be put in. _______________________________There is NO acceptable answer as to WHY one person murders another. But, yes the children and other family members will have to live with that stigma for the rest of their lives. The only sympathy going your way is from those who know you were against the act of murder, and testified to that end. I am so sorry for you, and others in your position. Take care!
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Post by toniga on Mar 8, 2006 16:45:23 GMT -5
Meme, I think people use the term "get over it" and moving" on when they can't deal with a situation and they don't/can't find an answer/solution so they use this vague term.I have encountered people who say this or have said told me those above terms ad nausem.IF I had the perfect way to conform too their ideal of "moving on",wouldn't I have already? Of course I would have "moved on" to their satisfaction BUT alas life for some of us isn't all roses and little kitty cats.
Thanks for realising there is a stigma attached to being a family member of someone who murders.I have encountered it(the stigma) plenty in my lifetime. In my case people also equate my past with being weak,vunerable,etc.Just because I come from whatever situation I do, does not make me the "stereotypical" victim that many people would love me to be.
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