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Post by beemo on Oct 28, 2009 12:12:33 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
Three years ago my dad was murdered by my nephew (he was 65 - newly retired). A week and a half ago I lost my mom (she was 68). The kids and I stopped by her house to visit. The kids ran into the house to find Grandma. They found her "sleeping" in her chair, but they couldn't get her to wake up. As soon as I saw her face, I knew. I sent the kids to the kitchen to watch TV, and even though I knew, I shook her arm and tried to get her to wake up.
Here I am, 41 years old, and both my parents are gone. My mom was such a big part of my life. Several times a day I think about picking up the phone to call her, then remember I can't.
I'm not ready to deal with this again.......
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Oct 28, 2009 17:54:37 GMT -5
I am so sorry your dad was taken from you. Finding your Grandma must have been a terrible shock to you too. I'm sorry for this new loss of your mom, Beemo. We will always miss all of them, or I know I will. Does it seem to you that every new loss brings back those feelings from the times before? I know right now I am foggy at times, not as bad as after Beth was murdered, but still in that fog some. It always seems as losing any loved one brings everything about losing Bethena back to me in so many ways. (((((HUGS))))) to you dear one, and I hope you take care of you.
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Oct 28, 2009 21:36:39 GMT -5
I am so sorry your dad was taken from you. Finding your Grandma must have been a terrible shock to you too. I'm sorry for this new loss of your mom, Beemo. We will always miss all of them, or I know I will. Does it seem to you that every new loss brings back those feelings from the times before? I know right now I am foggy at times, not as bad as after Beth was murdered, but still in that fog some. It always seems as losing any loved one brings everything about losing Bethena back to me in so many ways. (((((HUGS))))) to you dear one, and I hope you take care of you. Beemo, I am obviously getting confused at times too here. I meant finding your Mom must have been a horrible shock. I did not find my stepdad, his caregiver did. He insisted on staying in his own home, no matter how much we tried to get him to change that. The phone call from the police was so hard, I don't know what I would have done if I had found him, especially with little ones there. My heart goes out to all of you so very much.
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Post by drewsmom595 on Oct 30, 2009 21:23:02 GMT -5
Hi Beemo:
I haven't logged in here in quite awhile, but I do remember you. I am so sad to read about your Mom. My heart goes out to you and your family. Please be gentle with yourself and know that I, and many others, are sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Nov 1, 2009 0:33:12 GMT -5
Hi everyone, Three years ago my dad was murdered by my nephew (he was 65 - newly retired). A week and a half ago I lost my mom (she was 68). The kids and I stopped by her house to visit. The kids ran into the house to find Grandma. They found her "sleeping" in her chair, but they couldn't get her to wake up. As soon as I saw her face, I knew. I sent the kids to the kitchen to watch TV, and even though I knew, I shook her arm and tried to get her to wake up. Here I am, 41 years old, and both my parents are gone. My mom was such a big part of my life. Several times a day I think about picking up the phone to call her, then remember I can't. I'm not ready to deal with this again....... Dear beemo, I'm very sorry about your Mother. For MVS, it seems like at times it's 1 thing after another. We've ALREADY had so much stress that any unusual stress can really throw us for a loop. Again, my condolences to you, your family and friends.
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Post by beemo on Nov 7, 2009 21:04:56 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. I still catch myself a couple times a day thinking, "I'd better call mom!" Things aren't going great, had a fight with my sis 'cause I told her I wanted to work one on one with her without my brother in law.....that went over like a lead balloon and some really ugly things were said. So, I've just kept really busy keeping the house up, feeding and giving medicine to mom's cat (I can't bring him home, my hubby and son are both allergic). I've been organizing things so when my sis decides it's time, going through stuff will be a little easier. I laugh at myself because I know mom must be thinking, "why didn't you help me with this when I was alive?!"
Christmas will be hard. My daughter already asked if could have Christmas at grandma's house. I told her yes. I'm going to decorate, and I could cook dinner there, too.
Thanks for being here.
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