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Post by damagedfamily on Dec 22, 2009 10:22:53 GMT -5
Does anyone have any tips for getting through this next week. I lost my mother-in-law in July, so this is our first Christmas without her. And as it is I keep crying at the drop of a hat. So any suggestions I am more than happy to take.
Thank you all JC :-[
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Dec 22, 2009 10:39:44 GMT -5
Does anyone have any tips for getting through this next week. I lost my mother-in-law in July, so this is our first Christmas without her. And as it is I keep crying at the drop of a hat. So any suggestions I am more than happy to take. Thank you all JC :-[ Dear damagedfamily, the things that have worked for me on the holidays are: Only do what you can cope with. Please don't give into pressure from others on how you should feel or what you should be doing. Do what you can cope with only. Keep up traditions that bring you the good memories of your loved 1. Be free with your emotions. I know 1st hand how repressing emotions destroys you in the long run. Feel free to cry, scream, talk about your loved 1, whatever you're feeling. Talk to those who TRULY care about you to get your emotions out if needed. We're made for connection and it helps heal us. Coming to this board can help also. This board has helped me so much for at least a few years! On here, you'll find other MVS who TRULY know how it is for us at the holidays. I hope this info will help you. Take care.
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Dec 22, 2009 11:45:54 GMT -5
These are a collection of tips that have been suggested by former members.. www.murdervictims.com/Holidays.htmPumpkin had very good suggestions and advice IMO. I did not get through that first Christmas very well, but I made it, one step at a time. And that is okay since I did get through it - I only did what I could cope with too. I hope something from all these suggestions that have helped others will help you too. My heart goes out to you.
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