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Post by melissa3504 on Jul 3, 2012 21:04:07 GMT -5
My mother and stepfather were shot in the head while in bed eArly Wednesday morning almost four years ago. I had two small children at the time and now have four but can't seem to hold it all together. How do I make it through this when the pain is so deep and I lost my support team to a brutal murderer that I think might come after us one day?
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jul 5, 2012 6:31:37 GMT -5
My mother and stepfather were shot in the head while in bed eArly Wednesday morning almost four years ago. I had two small children at the time and now have four but can't seem to hold it all together. How do I make it through this when the pain is so deep and I lost my support team to a brutal murderer that I think might come after us one day? Dear melissa3504, here are the things that have helped me recover as best as possible: The thing that helped me the most was counseling. It literally saved my life. Other things that helped: going to Parents of Murdered Children meetings, writing about it all, talking to understanding friends/family, getting spiritual counseling that covered the spiritual aspects of the tragedy that weren't covered in regular counseling, coming to message boards like this 1, getting involved in activism/support, etc., for other MVS and reading books about and/or by other MVS and experts in crime, justice system, etc. As far as the murderer coming after you: if this person is in prison you can do what are called "parole protest petitions". These can and do work. Parents of Murdered Children can help you set 1 up. There's a link to them on here. You CAN make it through with your sanity intact. I won't tell you it's not work. Recovery work is WORK. To heal as best as possible you make a commitment to being as well as possible and do the work needed. The fact that you're interacting with others on here is a sign that you do want to heal. If you were taking the easy way out you wouldn't have made the effort to ask for info, etc. I hope this info helps you. Take care.
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Jul 5, 2012 21:03:29 GMT -5
My mother and stepfather were shot in the head while in bed eArly Wednesday morning almost four years ago. I had two small children at the time and now have four but can't seem to hold it all together. How do I make it through this when the pain is so deep and I lost my support team to a brutal murderer that I think might come after us one day? Hi Melissa, I am so sorry your mother and stepfather were taken from you I wish none of us had to learn to live with this in our lives. We never should have had to. And after over 11 years, I don't believe we ever "move on", or it doesn't feel like I could put it that way. I do think that with time, and many of those other helps that pumpkin listed above, we can learn to walk around in it better. I did many of the things that pumpkin listed in her post above too - especially a lot of therapy, and many POMC support group meetings, and coming here for many years. I hope they have caught the murderer, and that they will never get out. We will be happy to help keep them in prison and write letters, sign petitions, whatever you want us to help with, and get others we know to help too. God bless you and send you those moments of peace that I know you need so much at this Sadaversary time of year. ((((HUGS))))) to you. If we could make it, so can you.
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Post by melissa3504 on Jul 7, 2012 12:26:24 GMT -5
Thank you for your support. I'm grateful to have found a website like this I will check out your suggestions and pray for the best.
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Post by melissa3504 on Jul 7, 2012 20:32:09 GMT -5
The number one suspect in this case was one of my parents best friends no one has ever been arrested though and God knows if anyone ever will. He is in jail though bc I told the detectives that he was stealing money from my Parents and they were able to prove that. He is up for parole in 3 years and I am dreading that.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jul 9, 2012 10:05:18 GMT -5
The number one suspect in this case was one of my parents best friends no one has ever been arrested though and God knows if anyone ever will. He is in jail though bc I told the detectives that he was stealing money from my Parents and they were able to prove that. He is up for parole in 3 years and I am dreading that. I can imagine you're dreading it. Parole protest petitions can and do work. Parents of Murdered Children can give you info on how to get 1 set up. There's a link to them on here. We'll be glad to post it on here and I always post them on other message boards I'm on. Another option is going to civil court if this person IS freed. I'm hoping he's not going to be. But, if the petitions don't work, going to civil court is another option. It's another way to try to get full justice. I wish the best for you in all this. Take care.
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Post by melissa3504 on Jul 10, 2012 16:55:48 GMT -5
What would I do in civil court?
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jul 12, 2012 10:09:27 GMT -5
What would I do in civil court? I'll explain it to you as soon as I have time (which should be later today). Thanks for your patience.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jul 19, 2012 10:12:34 GMT -5
What would I do in civil court? www.safetycops.com/civil_justice.htmI found the above link for you. An example of a famous civil case was the case between OJ Simpson and the families of the victims in that case (the Goldmans and Browns). I hope this info helps you. Take care.
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