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Post by nikkissis on Oct 17, 2013 23:39:37 GMT -5
My sister was murdered 21 years ago. My step dad snuffed out her life and moved on like nothing happened. He is free and has never faced charges because my sister has never been found. When this happened all those years ago, I wasn't home. My siblings were and for years I was told they don't remember what happened. I have always suspected he did this. He made me write letters claiming to be her then he drove them out of state to mail them. He also made me fake a phone call claiming my sister had called and she was all right. I was 13. I did what I was told. We all did. Our home life was abusive to say the least. My parents were in the military so they handled things much differently than most families. We were beaten, handcuffed and stuck outside for hours in the scorching heat of summer. I could go on and on. Anyway, I ran away at 15. I was scared. Something was wrong. When I left it had been almost 2 years since my sis vanished. I ran far away. I went to a family members home where I knew was safe. That family member spent $10,000 looking for my sister and to this day is the only other person besides myself looking for my sweet sister. When my parents found out where I was, my step dad took off and was AWOL from the military for 3 days. I was warned he had a gun. I spent the next week sleeping in strangers homes. The next few months blended together as the reality of what was happening was too heavy for me. We went to the media, the story was covered by A Current Affair. My parents put in for a transfer overseas which the military granted. They lived over there for about 10 years. Now I dont really know why but I started to feel guilty.. Like I should forgive them for all of the abuse (My mother is just as responsible. She allowed her husband to brutally abuse is. Her first husband, my real father is in prison for 60 years because he is a petophile. Mom should be with him. She made us do it too.. She was just as big of a part as he was) I chose to forgive and try to have a life with them in it. I wanted to see my other siblings. I didn't know if my step dad really did this because she has never been found. I have given DNA I have searched for her I get letters from missing and exploited children telling me where they hung my sister's picture that month. My parents never looked for her. They have always said she was a bad kid and she just ran away. It never sat right with me. They never wanted to talk about her. I have 4 other siblings.. In 21 years we have all been together as a family once. For one day. We started talking about the past and my parents got up and left. Then this past June, my sibling told me the whole truth. We have gone to the police. I was told by the Lt. that they want to arrest both of my parents on Murder 1. Now we wait. My sister didn't deserve this. The siblings who were home and witnessed this and were forced to play a part in the cover up are not well, they didnt deserve this either. I am not surprised that my parents have gone on to lead a pretty normal life. She a school teacher and he works for the military as a civilian. She is a master manipulator honing her craft for more that 50 years. she is the pupeteer and he is her puppet. she has the brains he has none. that is why for so long i didnt think it was possible that he could have done this because he is not smart wnough to get away with anything! but she is. I want the nightmares to end. I want the pain to stop. I want my sister out of the place she is right now and given a proper burial. She was amazing. 2 years older than me. She taught me everything I know. She was loving and loyal. I miss her dearly and cry all of the time. She was murdered when she was only 15. I feel like no one cares about her. I do. I will never stop looking for her. I was told a story about her recently. See my sister was very intelligent. She could read at 3. She taught me when I waz 4. She taught our cousin too. The first word she taught her to spell was LOVE.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Oct 18, 2013 10:01:39 GMT -5
My sister was murdered 21 years ago. My step dad snuffed out her life and moved on like nothing happened. He is free and has never faced charges because my sister has never been found. When this happened all those years ago, I wasn't home. My siblings were and for years I was told they don't remember what happened. I have always suspected he did this. He made me write letters claiming to be her then he drove them out of state to mail them. He also made me fake a phone call claiming my sister had called and she was all right. I was 13. I did what I was told. We all did. Our home life was abusive to say the least. My parents were in the military so they handled things much differently than most families. We were beaten, handcuffed and stuck outside for hours in the scorching heat of summer. I could go on and on. Anyway, I ran away at 15. I was scared. Something was wrong. When I left it had been almost 2 years since my sis vanished. I ran far away. I went to a family members home where I knew was safe. That family member spent $10,000 looking for my sister and to this day is the only other person besides myself looking for my sweet sister. When my parents found out where I was, my step dad took off and was AWOL from the military for 3 days. I was warned he had a gun. I spent the next week sleeping in strangers homes. The next few months blended together as the reality of what was happening was too heavy for me. We went to the media, the story was covered by A Current Affair. My parents put in for a transfer overseas which the military granted. They lived over there for about 10 years. Now I dont really know why but I started to feel guilty.. Like I should forgive them for all of the abuse (My mother is just as responsible. She allowed her husband to brutally abuse is. Her first husband, my real father is in prison for 60 years because he is a petophile. Mom should be with him. She made us do it too.. She was just as big of a part as he was) I chose to forgive and try to have a life with them in it. I wanted to see my other siblings. I didn't know if my step dad really did this because she has never been found. I have given DNA I have searched for her I get letters from missing and exploited children telling me where they hung my sister's picture that month. My parents never looked for her. They have always said she was a bad kid and she just ran away. It never sat right with me. They never wanted to talk about her. I have 4 other siblings.. In 21 years we have all been together as a family once. For one day. We started talking about the past and my parents got up and left. Then this past June, my sibling told me the whole truth. We have gone to the police. I was told by the Lt. that they want to arrest both of my parents on Murder 1. Now we wait. My sister didn't deserve this. The siblings who were home and witnessed this and were forced to play a part in the cover up are not well, they didnt deserve this either. I am not surprised that my parents have gone on to lead a pretty normal life. She a school teacher and he works for the military as a civilian. She is a master manipulator honing her craft for more that 50 years. she is the pupeteer and he is her puppet. she has the brains he has none. that is why for so long i didnt think it was possible that he could have done this because he is not smart wnough to get away with anything! but she is. I want the nightmares to end. I want the pain to stop. I want my sister out of the place she is right now and given a proper burial. She was amazing. 2 years older than me. She taught me everything I know. She was loving and loyal. I miss her dearly and cry all of the time. She was murdered when she was only 15. I feel like no one cares about her. I do. I will never stop looking for her. I was told a story about her recently. See my sister was very intelligent. She could read at 3. She taught me when I waz 4. She taught our cousin too. The first word she taught her to spell was LOVE. Dear nikkissis, I'm very sorry about your sister. I'm glad you found this board and hope you find some comfort here. You've been through so much. I'm so glad you've kept up remembering your sister. Please keep doing this as it's needed for people to know about these things. I'm very sorry you've been abused by family members. I experienced the same and know it's devastating. I hope justice will be done for your sister as far as the courts go. Again, welcome to the board. Take care.
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Post by nikkissis on Oct 18, 2013 13:13:26 GMT -5
Thank you, I am so happy I found this. It has helped me so much to be able to read others experiences. My heart breaks for others on here but at the same time I am comforted. When I try to talk about this no one knows what to say. So happy to have found you all. Thank you for adding me?
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Oct 18, 2013 16:23:34 GMT -5
Dear Nikkissis, I am so sorry your sister was taken from you And for all you have been through for so many years, so much was taken from you at such a young age too. It's amazing to me that you were able to find ways to keep yourself safe too. Your courage, and intelligence, and determination, and your love - these all shine through in all you have done through these years. Thank heavens another of your siblings has found their courage too. You are so right that they did not deserve this either. The damage and fear that abusers can cause is so horrible. My heart breaks so for all of you. Oh how I hope you all can have some justice for your sister after all these years. Blessings are wished for you, Janet
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Post by nikkissis on Oct 19, 2013 5:31:11 GMT -5
Thank you Janet, I want peace and to heal.. For my family. I have always believed we would find her and then I would have peace. I am starting to think that is not true. I wish she was here! I wish she was being a mommy with me! I wish I could call her and tell her my baby just got her license and that her oldest niece gave us a grand daughter... I am so sorry for your loss too. I read your daughter's poetry. What talent! I wish she was here too. I hope God has a lovely special place in heaven for our loved ones who should have never been taken away. Bless you Janet. Thank you again for your words. It helps me more than you know. Ang
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