|
Sad today
Mar 3, 2014 9:11:14 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by kidsister on Mar 3, 2014 9:11:14 GMT -5
My "brother in law" wanted to get rid of my sisiters clothes so he bagged them all up and dropped them off. I came home from work and they where just sitting by the door. It's only been 3 months and I feel like he is throwing her away, one bag had trash in the bottom like he was cleaning their room and just throwing stuff away and didn't care. Is this all that is left of my sisiter? Just a pile of trash bags with her clothes?
|
|
|
Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Mar 3, 2014 23:38:47 GMT -5
No that is not all that's left of your sister, but no wonder you had that reaction. Even though the man is dealing with his own grief and rage, doing this to you was not fair at all. Your sister is every beautiful thing that you hold in your heart about her. Every beautiful loving memory you ever had about her is still there inside of you, even if the horror of what was done to her may be what is at the forefront of your mind for a while. It will take time, I'm glad you are venting. Everyone grieves differently. But sometimes we all need to hang on to the thing that will help us get through the day we are facing, when we are learning to live with murder. Maybe for this day he just couldn't face seeing those things now that she is gone. But maybe having her things will help you a bit somehow too. I still have boxes of my daughter's things with me, even though it's been over 12 years, and even though we have moved. In the early years I would cry so very hard when I held them - sometimes I still do, and I like that feeling of holding something of her close to me. Now you have your sister's things to hold on to, perhaps that can help you somehow as it did me. God Bless and wishing you moments of peace. xo Janet
|
|
|
Sad today
Mar 6, 2014 20:03:22 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by kidsister on Mar 6, 2014 20:03:22 GMT -5
Thank you Janet for taking the time to read and reply. That was a rough day for me and it helped somehow just getting it out there. I haven't had the courage to look through all of her things I had my husband put them away for me. In time I will and I'm glad that I have them and they weren't thrown away. I know everyone grieves differently, I just can't imagine getting rid of her things so soon like he did.
|
|