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Post by missykw34 on May 19, 2014 23:00:00 GMT -5
Hi, I've never been into social media or any kind of internet socializing, but I feel so alone right now. I really don't know who to reach out to because no one can understand this pain. My 22 yr old brother was stabbed to death in his home. He was a gentle, loving and intelligent person. Not into drugs/gangs. I never dreamed this could happen. It happened in march and I feel like I am dying everyday. Many days I wish I were dead with him. I'm so sad. It is so hard to work and take care of my kids. I'm so sad. Does this ease up? The pain is unbearable.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on May 20, 2014 10:08:50 GMT -5
Hi, I've never been into social media or any kind of internet socializing, but I feel so alone right now. I really don't know who to reach out to because no one can understand this pain. My 22 yr old brother was stabbed to death in his home. He was a gentle, loving and intelligent person. Not into drugs/gangs. I never dreamed this could happen. It happened in march and I feel like I am dying everyday. Many days I wish I were dead with him. I'm so sad. It is so hard to work and take care of my kids. I'm so sad. Does this ease up? The pain is unbearable. Dear Missykw34, I'm very sorry about your brother. I'm glad you found this board and hope you find some comfort here. Talking to other MVS will bring you the most understanding as we've also lived through it. In my own experience the pain does ease over time. Doing recovery work will help with that. Please know the rewards of recovery work don't show instantly. It does take time. Please don't be hard on yourself for what you're feeling. You may want to see if there are any Parents of Murdered Children meetings in your area. Hopefully there are. This would allow you to talk to other MVS in person. I was very blessed to have a meeting where I lived at the time of my family tragedy and they helped me greatly. There's a link to them on here. I hope this info helps you. Once again, welcome to the board. Take care.
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Post by missykw34 on May 23, 2014 11:32:37 GMT -5
Thank you, I found a pomc group fairly close. I think I'll check it out soon. Thank you
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on May 24, 2014 18:25:54 GMT -5
Dear Missykw34, I am so sorry your brother was taken from you. Yes the pain seemed unbearable to me for a long time too. Nothing in life ever could have prepared us for this. But there are things that can help at least a bit at a time, and ever more over time. What helps each person may be different. But like Pumpkin, I found some of the best help at a POMC support group. We used to go to meetings once a month - it was a 75 mile drive each way for me, but I will always know it was worth it. It helped to be able to pour my heart out to people who were not judgmental and were very understanding, because they had lived through this too. I also wrote my feelings in journals, went to therapy, and walked and exercised (once I had worked up enough energy to do so) trying to ease the tensions at least a bit. Exercise/walking is a natural tension reliever. There were so many feelings I had never even known I could feel before. There is no right way or wrong way to feel about all of this. It was wonderful to find others to help me understand what was happening to me. Be gentle with yourself, take care of yourself, and give yourself time to find your way. It is possible dear Missy.
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Post by missykw34 on May 27, 2014 23:22:19 GMT -5
Thank you for responding. I'm going to check out the POMC group for sure. It's a 2 hour drive, but oh well. Thank you so much for responding, I'm sad that others have had the misfortune of this experience but I'm thankful for the support
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