Post by Disturbed on Nov 4, 2004 20:01:56 GMT -5
I am one of the surviving victims of murder in my family. My father murdered my Mother on June 3, 1994. He was sentenced to 12 years in prison after shooting my Mother point blank in the face with a .44 Special. I can not explain how this has devastated my life. I feel I am a contributing factor in the reason this happened. My father and Mother were divorced in 1985. My father was notified my Mother was requesting Child Support. He called my Mother one evening after midnight. After the call She ran into our rooms and awakened us. She told us to get up and get into the car right away. We ran to the car in our undergarments wondering what was going on. My Mother then told us she had just spoken with our father, and that he told her he was going to come over and shoot us. We had driven to the park right next door to my house and waited there for a minute. We witnessed my father's vehicle going down the street on the way to our house. That evening we stayed at my Mother's employers house. The next day nothing more was said about the incident. In December of my senior year at High School I was involved in a head-on collision on a local highway. I suffered from a ruptured spleen, internal bleeding, and severe head trauma. I was in a coma for seven days. I did not graduate that year. Due to the time I missed from school in recovery. My Mother requested another years child support from my father till I graduated High School. This was a term in the divorce agreement from the courts. He then started acting funny after he found out. The rest is only what I have been told by others.
My father had a bad day at work and came home and was strangely quiet. They began cooking steaks outside on the grill for dinner and my father had his fingers slammed in the sliding door by my step sister. He then began brushing their dog. He was brushing, but the dog was about one foot under the brush. He then opened the mail and received the notification that my Mother was requesting another year of child support. He called my Mother and conversed for a short period. According to witnesses then became really weird and started rummaging through their key drawer and went to the bedroom. My step mother went outside to flip the steaks and came back into the house. She could not find my father. She ran to the bedroom and found his gun case on top of the bed without a gun. She went to their garage and his car was gone as well. She then called 911 emergency. By the time the officer arrived, my father had already been there, entered my Mother's home, and murdered her. He then left and stopped at a local quick mart and bought a six pack of beer. Then he drove to the mountains to kill himself, drank the beer, and could not do it! He was arrested shortly thereafter when he attempted to go to his home. I had been told that witnesses at the scene witnessed a car fitting the description of my father's pulling up in front of the house. Then witnesses watched a man go into the house, a gun shot went off, and the man left. I had then told the police who I suspected that was due to the previous scenario and gave them my father's address. He was arrested when he tried to go home the next day. He then denied his right to speedy trial and was imprisoned in a county jail for almost 4 years. During the trial me and my Uncle were the only family on the prosecution since of the courtroom and the rest of my family on the defense for my father. I took the stand and told the judge this, it seemed like everything I said was irrelevant. When the judge found him dissaccosiative, and sentenced to 12 years in jail for second degree murder (with time served). I could not believe it. That meant he was only going to jail for 8 more years of time. My father had called and told my sister right before he left to my Mother's house and asked her to come over and show him her report card. He succeeded in luring her away from the house leaving my Mother and me. Due to the threat in the beginning of the divorce, and the fact that over the same subject "child support" this ended in the murder of my mother. It is not just loosing one parent, but both.
I cannot find closure. I went to talk to him in jail to find out what happened and he told me his lawyer advised him not to talk about it until the trial. I have not spoken to him since. Even to this day, I can not stop remembering like it was yesterday. It feels like the pain will never go away. I don't know what to do. How does a person go about putting a tragedy like this to rest?
My father had a bad day at work and came home and was strangely quiet. They began cooking steaks outside on the grill for dinner and my father had his fingers slammed in the sliding door by my step sister. He then began brushing their dog. He was brushing, but the dog was about one foot under the brush. He then opened the mail and received the notification that my Mother was requesting another year of child support. He called my Mother and conversed for a short period. According to witnesses then became really weird and started rummaging through their key drawer and went to the bedroom. My step mother went outside to flip the steaks and came back into the house. She could not find my father. She ran to the bedroom and found his gun case on top of the bed without a gun. She went to their garage and his car was gone as well. She then called 911 emergency. By the time the officer arrived, my father had already been there, entered my Mother's home, and murdered her. He then left and stopped at a local quick mart and bought a six pack of beer. Then he drove to the mountains to kill himself, drank the beer, and could not do it! He was arrested shortly thereafter when he attempted to go to his home. I had been told that witnesses at the scene witnessed a car fitting the description of my father's pulling up in front of the house. Then witnesses watched a man go into the house, a gun shot went off, and the man left. I had then told the police who I suspected that was due to the previous scenario and gave them my father's address. He was arrested when he tried to go home the next day. He then denied his right to speedy trial and was imprisoned in a county jail for almost 4 years. During the trial me and my Uncle were the only family on the prosecution since of the courtroom and the rest of my family on the defense for my father. I took the stand and told the judge this, it seemed like everything I said was irrelevant. When the judge found him dissaccosiative, and sentenced to 12 years in jail for second degree murder (with time served). I could not believe it. That meant he was only going to jail for 8 more years of time. My father had called and told my sister right before he left to my Mother's house and asked her to come over and show him her report card. He succeeded in luring her away from the house leaving my Mother and me. Due to the threat in the beginning of the divorce, and the fact that over the same subject "child support" this ended in the murder of my mother. It is not just loosing one parent, but both.
I cannot find closure. I went to talk to him in jail to find out what happened and he told me his lawyer advised him not to talk about it until the trial. I have not spoken to him since. Even to this day, I can not stop remembering like it was yesterday. It feels like the pain will never go away. I don't know what to do. How does a person go about putting a tragedy like this to rest?