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Post by cthewig on Nov 24, 2007 17:29:11 GMT -5
I just experienced my first thanksgiving without my Dad...and my brother. The experience was hollow...without substance.
I miss him. I miss his voice on the phone. I miss knowing that he is there. I miss the world as it was. The world is less now.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Nov 24, 2007 18:25:25 GMT -5
Dear cthewig, our 1st holidays after the murders were like being at a funeral. I hate how the holidays will never be the same after our tragedies. I'm sorry the day was very hard for you. Know that we're here for you and ready to listen. Take care.
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Post by taterfay on Nov 26, 2007 18:21:33 GMT -5
I am so sorry, cthewig. The first holidays after my sister's murder (and then my mom's death from cancer 10 months later) were like a big fog. We just went through the motions. Hugs, Stacey
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Post by drewsmom595 on Nov 26, 2007 20:07:31 GMT -5
Yeah...the first holidays are REALLY hard!! I'm so sorry that you're going through this. That we're all going through this.
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Nov 27, 2007 15:51:25 GMT -5
hi cthewig,
I am so sorry there is any reason for you to have to get through such a hard day, one that could have been so happy. The first holidays without our Beth were like torture for me. Trying to keep things going for everyone else was so hard.
I did not start to enjoy any part of the holidays again really, until I changed some things around about how we celebrate them. Perhaps the passage of time helped some (adjusting to walk around in it), and perhaps that empty space did not quite stand out so much since we were doing things differently. Somehow I think that did help at least a bit.
I am not saying I don't miss her because I do every single day without a doubt, but that it got easier to enjoy parts of holidays with the rest of my family again after some years and changing things around.
I hope you are feeling at least a bit better. Sometimes when I was at my saddest it would help the world look at least a little bit brighter if I would go out and walk outside in the trees and nature.
Thinking of you,
Janet
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