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Post by amanda on Dec 15, 2006 15:31:09 GMT -5
Yesterday I was finally able to go to my parents gravesite. I received a call and the headstone was placed. I have not been there since the funeral. I feel guilty, but its to hard to go there.
I feel like I should be doing more, or crying more than I am. I miss them so much.
I still feel like I am watching someone elses life. This cant be mine.
I have been reading alot of the posts here, I havent responded, but I know there are others who feel my pain, and it helps to read that you guys are able to move on, not forget but move on and start to go back to the way things were before the loved ones were lost
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Post by drewsmom595 on Dec 15, 2006 19:33:31 GMT -5
It's hard, but don't try to beat yourself up too much about what you should be doing or feeling. You're doing the best you can, which is all anyone can expect of you at this time.
I can relate to how you feel you're watching someone else's life. To this day it is still hard for me to believe that something like this happened to me.
Take care.
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Post by wordup on Dec 15, 2006 19:53:42 GMT -5
Hi Amanda, I agree with drewsmom, it is ok that you hadn't been back to the site before now, you weren't ready then, but you went today. How are you feeling now that you have gone?
It was hard for me, but once I got there it was like nothing I could imagine in my mind. I was afraid for whatever reason. But have a peaceful visits now everytime I go. Take care.
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Post by taterfay on Dec 16, 2006 23:24:24 GMT -5
My sister (and mother's) marker was put up last month. Since it was put up in Illinois and I live in Oregon I don't know when I'll have the chance to see it (We were all from Illinois, thus, that is why it's there)...I have been sent pictures of how it looks. I have to admit that I don't really like looking at the pictures and have shoved them away somewhere so I'll forget where they are. I am the one that picked out the marker and all so I'm happy with the way it looks. I know in my heart that my mom and sister aren't really there at all. To me, it is just a memorial to them..just a representation. I'm glad you were able to go, amanda, and remember that EVERYONE grieves differently and you are grieving just the way YOU grieve, so don't be hard on yourself. Hugs!
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Post by ChellysdadinOC on Dec 17, 2006 2:58:01 GMT -5
I ALSO HAVE PROBLEMS GOING TO THE GRAVESITE WE MUST REMEMBER THAT THERE BODIES ARE THE TENTS THAT GOD HAS PROVIDED FOR US YOU MUST HAVE FAITH THAT ARE LOVED ONES ARE IN GOD'S KIGKDOME AND IT CANT GET MUCH BETTER THEN THAT. SO YOU GO WITH THAT IN MIND AND IT MAKES IT JUST A LITTLE BETTER KNOWING WHO IS REALLY THERE FOR ALL OF OUR LOVED ONES
chelea'sdaddyinOC
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Post by tamècasmom on Dec 17, 2006 5:18:01 GMT -5
Amanda,
Going to Tameca's grave site was very hard for me as well, I came to the site just like you asking for some words of comfort,understanding and wisdom and I received them all and from the posts I can see you have as well.
Take heed to the kind words and advise they helped me and I am sure they will help you get through another stage of the ugly grieving process.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jan 1, 2007 9:31:47 GMT -5
I agree with the others. Take care.
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