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Post by beemo on Nov 8, 2007 13:53:25 GMT -5
Well, my nephew has been found competent for trial and had another arraignment. He plead not guilty by reason of insanity. The trial date has been set for March 10.
I so do not want to go to trial on this. I feel like I'll be the prosecution's star witness because I don't have the same emotional ties to my nephew that my mom & sister do. It makes me sick just thinking about it. This has the possibility of ripping what's left of my family apart, but I need to do whatever it takes to keep everyone (especially my two small children) safe.
I've had a lot of anxiety issues lately. I've always had them, but as everyone knows, this kind of stress brings it up in spades.
I also keep picturing the way my dad died and it tears my heart apart. Do you ever wish you could visit a medium that could help you talk to your loved one?
As always, thanks for being here.
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Post by taterfay on Nov 8, 2007 18:31:56 GMT -5
Hi beemo:
Thanks for the update. I can totally understand your dread of the trial...oddly enough, my sister's murderers trial is set for March 3..so...march is going to be hard for us too. I also relate to the anxiety problems...I've had panic attacks off and on for many, many years and this certainly doesn't help.
Actually, I have gone to a medium/psychic twice and "talked" to my mom and my sister...there is a thread (I think it is on the "anything under the sun" forum) entitled something like "Have you ever gone to a psychic?" and I talk about my experiences there.
Big Hugs! Stacey
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Post by beemo on Nov 10, 2007 22:20:53 GMT -5
I decided I'm going to try not to worry about the trial too much right now. It's a long way away, it might get continued, and maybe he'll take a plea bargain and I won't have to deal with a trial at all.
I slept a little bit better last night, so that was nice.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Nov 11, 2007 8:37:51 GMT -5
Dear beemo, if you don't mind my asking, do you think your nephew is competent to stand trial? Do you agree with the decision of the courts on this? I wish if we could talk to our loved 1's again, too. However, I haven't and won't be seeking out any kind of medium as this goes against my religious beliefs. I wish we had time travel! Then we could go back in time and try/hope for a different outcome. I'd hope/try for some of my family doing what they were supposed to as far as facing Mom's mental illness, etc. It might NOT change the outcome, but at least it would be worth a try. Plus we could find out everything that happened. My family knows most of the reasons for the murders, but some things that happened the day before we're not sure about. I'd love to just observe those things. Anyway, am going on and on here like I usually do! I hope the trial in your case happens as scheduled and justice is done. Take care.
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Post by beemo on Nov 11, 2007 19:41:03 GMT -5
I don't know if he's competent or not. I know he fried his brains with drugs, so combine that with his mental illness, and who knows. Either way, I do believe he's dangerous, and I would like him kept away from society as long as possible. Whether that's jail or the mental hospital, it doesn't really matter to me.
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Post by drewsmom595 on Nov 21, 2007 5:59:35 GMT -5
Thanks for the update, beemo!
Regarding your question about visiting a medium, I wanted to speak with my Dad so badly after he died, that I did contact a psychic medium. She knew nothing about me, and I was able to "hear" what my Dad had to say. Whether it was real or not, I'm not sure. But I do want to believe I had one last contact with him...it really helped me.
What I've come to realize, however, is that my Dad can "hear" me without the use of a psychic, because our loved ones never really leave us spiritually (my opinion). My Dad was always interested in what I was doing when he was alive, I can't imagine that death would change that. I know that if I died suddenly, I would want to look in on my son occasionally.
My son recently told me that he would be devastated if I died. I told him that I wasn't planning on dying anytime soon. I did tell him, however, that when I do die a million years from now, I will always be around him, and that he can still talk to me and I'll hear him. And to listen to his heart, because that's where I'll answer him.
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Post by cthewig on Jan 25, 2008 6:18:56 GMT -5
beemo, I don't trust spiritists and sooth sayers. I don't know who or what they are listening to and I don't know what their intentions are. I am finding a lot of peace in my situation by reading the Bible. The Bible is my medium so to speak. I am inclined to want to know what God thinks about this situation. God's opinion is the only one that really matters to me. I have found the Bible to be true when I read it and apply what I read to my life and best of all...the Bible is free. Here are just a couple of sites that I googled and found free Bibles: www.wwcr.com/email_free_offer.htmlwww.soulwinners.com/main.cfm?ID=13www.biblesforamerica.org/products/RequestRcV.aspxYou can download Bibles onto your computer here: www.olivetree.com/store/home.php?cat=262&free=ywww.soulwinners.com/main.cfm?ID=13I hope that you discover God within the pages of the Bible like I have. I believe that He wants peace for us and I believe that we can find that peace in Him. This world never offers peace and hope to me but God has. I merely accept the peace that God offers me and that makes life bearable for me. I choose to believe that God loves me and my Dad and my brother. God loved us so much that He gave us free will. God gave my brother free will and my brother chose to use that free will to murder my father. I use my free will to choose to believe in God. I choose to believe that God knows what He is doing even if I don't. I choose to believe that God knows what is best for all of us. This choice is what gives me peace in my life right now in this situation. If God never does anything else for me as long as I live, I at least know that believing in Him is helping me to handle the nightmare of life right now. That is enough. That is more than anybody else can do for me. I can't find peace and hope in the world but I find it in believing in God. Romans 8:28 "28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." I don't know when or how God will work this out for good but I believe that God will work my Dad's murder out for good. That is my hope. I found that hope in the Bible.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jan 25, 2008 10:59:20 GMT -5
Dear cthewig, thanks for your wonderful post! I know Jesus Christ has kept me sane. Some of the worst years of my life were after the murders when I turned away from Him. What was strange is I never quit believing. I just turned away. I had a LOT of self-pity (as all active alcoholics do!) I only went to church a few times during those years, and every time I had a hangover. You know what's wonderful? When I quit drinking, I heard His voice! God had never left me! I used to think He hated me because I turned away and was doing so many wrong things. But, once I got clean, He told me to not drink all the time and that I'd make it. When I'd drive by a liquor store and be tempted, He'd tell me: don't do it. I'll give you the strength to stay clean. I've had many spiritual problems to work on from that time and also before the murders. I agree 100% that EVEN WITH our tragedies that God wants good to come of ALL that happens to us! It took a few months at least for me to see the "good" that was coming out of what happened to us. I don't think this'll sound strange to you. A lot has changed with my family and I for the better. Some things haven't, unfortunately. But, that stuff I just do what I need to do and then give it up to God. Your post brought me to tears, because I KNOW that Jesus Christ has kept us sane through our tragedies. And He gives us the strength to re-build and keep going. Thanks again for sharing this. Take care.
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Post by tamècasmom on Jan 26, 2008 8:28:17 GMT -5
Beemo, I cannot comment on your post first because my daughter was not murderer by a family member and second the person who murdered my child has not been caught. However, I would like to comment on Cthwij and Pumpkin's posts.
The other day the people from the museum were returning my artifacts they had on display and my daughter's name came up and as usual the ambiance changed. An happy ambiance changed into a solemn ambiance I did not want them to leave my house sad, so before they left I explain to them how I felt about my daughter's murder. I told them it was the saddest moment of my life but I do have somethings to be thankful for, my grandchildren, the time I spent with my daughter, our wonderful relationship, the fact that I do not have to carry ugly baggage around and most importantly I became closer to GOD. My comment seemed to changed the atmosphere and I believe they were not downtrodden when they left my home.
Cthwif thanks for the scriptures like you I look to the Lord not to others for solitude or for some peace, Pumpkin you are so right The son of God Jesus Christ does keep one sane.
Beemo, I pray the Lord gives you the answers to your questions, please remember take care of you.
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