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Post by twinwtwins on Apr 21, 2008 14:27:19 GMT -5
Hello all! I found this site and I have been "lurking" the past few months.
On July 29, 2007, my older sister was murdered in her bed, along with her longtime boyfriend, by the 18 year old daughter of her boyfriend. This child was raised by my sister since she was 8, and my sister was the only real mother and stability in her life. SHe and her 19 year old boyfriend killed them, maked it look like a robbery, took the dogs and their other friends stole the corvette and they took off and fled to North Carolina where they were found by an alert hotel clerk. These five kids planned out and executed my sister and her boyfriend.
We have no idea why. They have not pleaded insanity, they were not on drugs, although they stole money and jewelry in their get away. The family of my sister's boyfriend has completely cut off their niece and have had no contact with her since the day she was arrested.
The trial is scheduled to begin May 19, and they will be consecutuve, with the boy going first, then the girl. The boy is going before a 3 judge panel and the girld is going in front of a jury. The prosecutor is seeking the death penalty in both cases and there will be no pleas.
I am glad I found this board and I can know that I am not alone. I have five other siblings, but we are each dealing with this in our own way. My parents are still alive and this has completely heart broken my mother. Any advice any one has i regards to the trials, etc. would be greatly appreciated.
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Post by carolyn on Apr 21, 2008 18:36:45 GMT -5
HOW Horrible I am very sorry!
I am glad that you have found this board, it will give you support and a space to vent anytime you want to.
God Bless you
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Post by wordup on Apr 22, 2008 1:22:27 GMT -5
I agree with Carolyn, that was awful, senseless act is what that was, and to have planned that , carried it out is unbeliveable. I am glad you have found this board, It is a place where you can talk about the things that you need to amoung those who truly understand, so do come when you can, we are here for you. Take care of yourself, You are in my prayers as well as your family.
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Post by taterfay on Apr 28, 2008 13:29:07 GMT -5
Hi there:
I am so sorry about your sister. I lost my sister to murder, as well! It is so hard to believe that these kids could have something as horrifying as this!! I'm really sorry you and your loved ones have to go through this and all I can say is that you have to live day to day. Grieve in whatever way you need to (there is no time limit on how long you should be grieving, so don't let anybody else tell you that you need to move forward..they don't understand)..cry, scream, laugh...get through your bad days in any way possible and cherish those days in which you don't feel as sad and horrified. This is such a wonderful group of people (this board) so come here and vent often...or even just tell us when something good is happening, too! We care! big hugs to you:) Stacey
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Post by twinwtwins on May 27, 2008 10:34:56 GMT -5
The first trial is almost over. We are now awaiting our turn to deliver victim impact statements at sentencing. The boy was found GUILTY of 4 counts of aggravated murder, 4 counts of aggravated burglary, and 4 counts of aggravated robbery!!!!!!! He is eligible for the death sentence!! The girl goes on trial in August before a jury. I have to say that this was the most horrific, terrible thing I have ever been through, and to watch my mother suffer through the crime scene phots, coroner testimony and the detectives that were first on scene describe what they found, I cannot express my sorrow for her. We still do not know why they did this. The defense presented NO WITNESSES AT ALL and the attorney's only indication of a motive was they went there to "scare"them, with an axe and a crowbar? ? There were no drugs or alcohol in either of their systems at the tinme of the arrest (18 hours later)
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Post by wordup on May 27, 2008 21:51:24 GMT -5
Wow, I'm glad to hear that you were able to get through so far and hope all continue to go well, You are in my prayers.
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Post by drewsmom595 on May 28, 2008 4:22:05 GMT -5
I'm glad that the first trial is almost over and the boy was found guilty. Take turns leaning on your Mom and siblings for support. You all need each other very much now. Getting through the trial is very difficult, but for me it was also difficult after the trial as well. I guess I was expecting to feel the "closure" that everyone talked about pre-trial...and I still felt very sad, and I still didn't truly have any answers as to why it really happened, and my Dad was still dead. They automatically filed for an appeal, so nothing was truly "closed" for our family.
Perhaps that won't happen to you, and you and your family will feel the closure they say exists when the trial is over. I pray this happens for you. But since you asked for my advice about what to expect with trials, I thought I'd mention this to you in case it happens to you. Because no one mentioned it to me, and it was a kind of a surprise.
Best wishes to you and your family with your next trial. Please keep us updated.
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Post by tamècasmom on May 28, 2008 11:48:28 GMT -5
Twinstwins,
Each time a new name appears on this site my heartbreaks then after a few seconds I realize people like you and me have found a haven, I welcome you. You hit the nail right on the head when you stated this site let's one know they are not alone, unfortunately, there are other MVS.
I am a mother who loss her daughter, I am also a mother who watches what affect the loss of a sibling can have on their sibling(s), so from the bottom of my heart I want to tell you I am so very sorry for your loss.
Sad but true, glad you found this site.
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Post by shelly1 on Apr 7, 2009 16:04:47 GMT -5
Hi twinwtwins! So glad you found this board like I did. I had to go through the trial thing too with my son. I might not be able to actually help you with advice since I chose not to attend the trial for him. I had moved to another state by the time the trial started (I really was upset with my son for putting us through the trial) but it was online at the local TV station, so I kept up with it that way and through newspapers.
How selfish these people are that put us through trials. When my tragedy happened, my pastor put me in touch with another woman who had lost her son and daughter. (Son killed his sister and himself) I told her that she was lucky and that I had wished my son had killed himself after his massacre. She told me that she wished she could bring him back so that she could kill him. Of course when she said this, her wound was still 3 mos. fresh. I wasn't shocked to hear this from her at all. I could very well understand where she was coming from. That's the beauty of people who have been through what we've been through. They can understand our way of grief and the things that we might say better than those who have not experienced such a traumatic event in their lives.
All I can tell you is that if you don't think that you can stand to see the perpetrator of your tragedy or the countless pieces of evidence that will be brought in, then you probably should plan on avoiding the whole scene and just sending in your victim's impact statement to be read in your absence. If you think you can handle it, as my daughter-in-law's mother did (I lost a daughter-in-law that night also) then by all means you should go. If you don't, then you will regret it.
I have no regrets about not going to my son's trial. I did go to his first hearing after the arraignment and seeing him sitting there without remorse made me sick to my stomach which is why I refrained from ever going again.
The choice is yours and don't let anybody sway what you feel in your heart that you should do. Just know that you are not alone.
Peace to you and your family
Shelly
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