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Post by laurinda on Mar 1, 2009 18:03:52 GMT -5
On Jan. 20, 2009, my living boyfriend brutally murder my 83 yr. father who was also living us. He called my Father out to the garage & slit his throat & stabbed him 26 times, kicked him & drug him down the sidewalk to the neighbors driveway. No previous argument had occurred. He is in jail for first degree murder & aggravated assault on me. He also attempt to murder me but the father saved my life by moving his body just enough so that it caught his attention away from & I was able to run to neighbors to call for help. They say the trial will take years, my fear is that he will get a lesser charge & easier sentence. He is 49 years old & needs to stay locked up forever. My problem now is not only the loss ( my heart aches) but the horror of that night plays over & over on a daily basis. If anyone has helpful words regarding the judicial system please let me know.
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Post by uncleeddiesniece on Mar 1, 2009 18:31:42 GMT -5
Laurinda, I am so very sorry you had to find this site and that you have to keep reliving that brutal, horrible murder and trauma. My Uncle was murdered in Aug, 2000. It took over 4 years to get to trial. I have found this site to be very welcoming and comforting. Pls know that you are not alone here and that you will find a lot of support here. I am keeping you in my thoughts and hope will find some peace amidst the grief and horrors. Tamara
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Mar 3, 2009 16:47:00 GMT -5
Dear Laurinda,
I am so very sorry for your loss of your father in this horrific way. I am so very sorry that the reliving it is so very traumatic. I know that is true. I did the same after my daughter's murder, and I was not even there when she was wounded.
You asked for helpful words regarding the judicial system. We kept in contact with the police who were investigating and the DAs. There are many things (most things) they may not share with you in an ongoing investigation, so you may find it frustrating when some of your questions cannot be answered because of that. When we did meet with them, we also brought pictures of my daughter with us - everyday pictures of her with pets, with family members, with friends. We wanted them to look at her as a person, not just a statistic. No that should not be necessary, but I do think it might have made a difference, and I know others who have thought the same.
My main immediate concern right now is that you remember to take care of you. You said he committed aggravated assault on you. I hope and pray any injuries you received are healing, and that you are remembering to eat, to rest if you cannot sleep, and to do the things that you need to do to get stronger too. Sometimes it is so easy to forget to take care of ourselves when the horror is taking over.
I also hope that you are not afraid to seek counseling if you need that help to learn to deal with this horror. I know that I went for years, and therapists helped me to learn many ways to cope, and to learn to walk around in all this a bit stronger and better over time, in spite of those nightmares and flashbacks that I had so often in the early years after murder.
And if you have any other questions or just need to vent, I hope you come here and any other places of support you can find to do just that. The victims assistance in your area may have a list of support groups. The POMC website that is linked here above has lists and contact numbers. Once you have the energy to do that kind of thing, it was something that was a great help to me.
No one should ever have to go through what you have, and there is certainly no reason to go through it alone.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers,
Janet
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