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Post by danigirl17 on Aug 14, 2013 18:33:59 GMT -5
I have searched for a support group in my area, nothing. I've had years of feeling alone & like no one understands. How could they understand when they haven't been there? My father was murdered, shot on Dec 8, 2009. We have been dealing with his murderer's case for almost 4 years now. It's a wound that has been ripped open month after month, year after year. I'm so glad I found this forum. I can't say much about what happened right now because of a gag order. The defense has already tried to charge me with perjury once already If you don't mind me asking how do you all deal with the anger?
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Aug 15, 2013 9:09:51 GMT -5
I have searched for a support group in my area, nothing. I've had years of feeling alone & like no one understands. How could they understand when they haven't been there? My father was murdered, shot on Dec 8, 2009. We have been dealing with his murderer's case for almost 4 years now. It's a wound that has been ripped open month after month, year after year. I'm so glad I found this forum. I can't say much about what happened right now because of a gag order. The defense has already tried to charge me with perjury once already If you don't mind me asking how do you all deal with the anger? Hi danigirl, I am so sorry your father was taken from you and that it is taking so long to get to trial. I am glad they think they've found the murderer, and hope and pray for justice for you, your family, and your father. So many things about this "new normal" we have are just so hard, nothing we ever should have had to face - and not anything we could have ever been prepared for either. Before my daughter was murdered, I did not know I could feel rage like that. It was so strong and huge and pounding through me, it scared me at first. But I have found ways to vent it over the years, and others have too. Talking in support groups and therapy. Writing about my feelings (sometimes I would lose track of time as I went on and on), in a journal OR then cutting it up with scissors or burning it (in a safe place such as an ashcan). Since I live in the country, it is safe and easy for me to also just go outside and throw rocks at trees. My husband used to saw and hammer things. Also it helped me to exercise - exercise is a natural tension reliever. Some people will mow the lawn. I would go walking every day that I could. And come back and do the relaxation breathing that my therapist had taught me. My heart goes out to you dear one, I hope there is something here that might help you in some way.
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