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Post by mary h on Jul 17, 2003 21:38:17 GMT -5
my father came home and shot my mother 6 times in the middle of the night as she slept in her bed. She was barely able to make it to to the door to unlock it before she collapsed in the threshold. He suffered a shot in he chest, unfortunately his wound was not fatal. I lay with my mom as she agonized in pain, i tried to keep talking to her telling her i loved her and telling her i was soo sorry, a few feet away my father lay on the ground a huge red blood spot on his chest, i can honestly say i could have cared less about him, the ground could have swallowed him whole, he could have exploded into a million pieces, i did not care, my main and only focus was my mommy. She was airlifted to the nearest trauma center 30 miles away, she lost too much blood and let go 24 hours later. I regret not saying goodbye to her, i refused, because if i did she would not leave, i tried to convince myself, but it is something i have had to live with for 13 years, she died just 1 day before her 49th birthday on aug, 24th 1989. My father was sentenced to 17 to life in prison for second degree murder. I was the youngest child of 5, but i have been the biggest thorn in his side. I have written several letters opposing his release to the parole board. I made an appearance to his 1st parole hearing 2 years ago, making it clear that i was daddy's little girl a long time ago, but i will be the one fighting the hardest to keep him where he is at. There were several people from his family that had made witness statements to the defense that my mother was having an affair, that they would testify to it. This of course enraged me, i very calmly went to those peoples houses and asked them to tell me who this person my mother was having an affair with was? I let them know this information made no difference in my love for my mother and i wanted to simply ask this man if he made my mother happy the last days of her life. i let them know that my mom was not here to defend herself, but i was, and i was not going to let people drag her name through the mud anymore. every one of them were cowards, denying ever saying it, the last person (a man) actually hid from me when i came to his house, funny, they were ready to swear in a court of law of this information, but somehow got lost on the way to the stand. Not one of them able to look my sister and me in the face.. Guilt, does wonders when you are forced to face your conscience. :or maybe they were just afraid of me!!! all 5'4 110lbs of me :I am definitely my mothers daughter, strong and proud to be...Thank you mommy
maria's daughter.
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Post by BethMariansChild on Jul 18, 2003 18:41:38 GMT -5
Mary,
Your post took my breath away. I find hope in your courage and strength. I'm sure your Mother was/is proud of you with your indomitahle fighting spirit and your determination to see justice done in her name.
Although I don't know you, I am proud of you...proud that you have the stamina and courage to keep the faith and see this through so that the man who viciously murdered your Mother will pay for his horrible deed. You are to be commended for the way you have stood up for her and continued to be her champion.
I applaud you from the very bottom of my heart.
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Post by Noel on Jul 18, 2003 21:50:50 GMT -5
Hi Mary for one so young I am sure Marie would be extremly proud of you and certanly telling the other Angels exactly that up there, and she would certanly not get any arguments from my little girl, as she is very family minded, >:(and I gotta say to you, what you did with those liars was great, or even if it wasn't a lie, no one, but no one deserves to be murdered, I always say to all the families that I have spoken with over my journey, since I became involved, we are here to take care of anything that comes up about our loved ones last moments, were here to represent them, fourtunatly it is usually only the scumbags that murder and there scumy relo. and friends that speak ill of the dead, but Ive gotto add you sure sound like one gutsy girl, God Bless, take care. Noel
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Post by Marc on Aug 16, 2003 12:30:48 GMT -5
I am astonished in that our experiences are so closely related. My father also killed my mother, but what happened was a little different. she came to the house to move out, i met her there to help. my father was there (against the restraining order my mother had against him). he helped us unpack and when he left i proceeded to take a shower (i hadnt taken 1 yet that morning) when i got out i found my mother stabbed 17 times in the back in a pool of blood. i did CPR to no avail, she lost too much blood as well as other factors. my father was stabbed once in the stomach, we are not sure if he did it or she did it, but he was able to drive away before i came out of the shower. he was later found... there was an affair involved. um... this all happened 4 months and 11 days ago. i am 18, 1 of 3 children (2 other girls, mallory 15 and madeline 5).. we are about to get into the trials... i realize this this very short and vague, but i will provide an email address so that we may talk and get into detail in more privacy
my email is downmyspiral@hotmail.com god bless
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Post by Amy on Sept 6, 2003 23:32:33 GMT -5
I am currently going through the similar thing. Mine is a little different. My dad shot and killed my mom with a single shot gun wound to the neck/chest area. I never got to see my mom...she died in their home. According to the prosecution he has told several different stories. His family/attorney are wanting him acquitted of the murder 1 charges. We went to court I told the prosecution to do whatever he had to to not let my dad go free. My dad does have schizophrenia, but that is all the more reason not to let him free. So, he can kill again and go free because he is crazy and won't take his meds. I'm not sure yet what is going on with the different stories. We are waiting on a court date. My dad's family are taking up for him also..hired the attorney for him and keeping me from obtaining my mom's things and mine from my parent's house.
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Post by Amy on Sept 6, 2003 23:37:59 GMT -5
please email me and maybe we can talk more Bad5807@Aol.com
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Post by Rasoolpuri on Sept 13, 2003 21:57:39 GMT -5
Mary.
I am very sorry for this innocent murder . I pray for peace of your mother's soul and i pray for your best future
What was cause of this horrible murder
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Post by rickerl5 on Sept 20, 2003 20:05:11 GMT -5
On September 16, 1988 I found my Mom dead, the victim of 5 gunshot wounds. I can still remember thinking why did he do it? It wasn't until the detective asked me if my father owned a gun that I realized that I knew who the "he" was. My father walked free for 12 1/2 years before the case was reopened and went to trial. On May 29, 2002 I listened as a judge sentenced my father to 26 years to life in prison for the 1st degree murder of my Mom (my 35 birthday). For many years I believed that I was the only person in the world who could have gone through something like this...today I just want to cry when I see the long list of people who have gone through just what I have. The similarities are truly frightening at times. I am so sorry for everyone who has a need to be here, but I hope that we can all find comfort and strength from talking and sharing our stories. Shaun daughter of Joan Lockwood murdered 9/16/88
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Post by mary h on Oct 5, 2003 23:40:06 GMT -5
Saun I am soo sorry to hear about your mother. i am curious to know, why did it take so long to have your father arrested? has he been to court and sentenced yet? please let me know how you are doing.
mary daughter of maria 1940-1989[/quote]
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Post by rickerl5 on Oct 18, 2003 23:27:40 GMT -5
Dear Mary,
Even thugh my father has always been considered the prime suspect it didn't go to trial in 1988 due to a lack of direct evidence. When the case was reopened in 2001 it wa decided that there was just to much circumstial evidence to not take it to trial, also 12 years later one witness changed her testimony.
Father has been convicted of first degree murder and sentenced to 26 years to life in prison, considering he is 70, he is not likely to ever see the light of day. He is appealing the case and in one week I'll be going down to listen to oral arguments, hopefully the state will view the case the same as the prosecutors and the jury.
You have had very similar experiences with your fathers family as I've had with mine. In fact, at one point I was even told that I should stand behind my father in his time of need (1988). Basically I was told that my Mom was dead and there was nothing that could be done about her, but father was alive and I should stand behind him. They were not amused when I told them that because my mom couldn't speak for herself anymore, I was going to. Haven't spoken to them much since 1988...they walked away and left 4 children without a mother and a father.
Take Care Shaun Daughter of Joan 1936-1988
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Post by mary on Oct 22, 2003 15:09:30 GMT -5
shaun, i too have been asked to forgive my father. He has sent letters to the local priest to be delivered to my sister and myself. requesting that we put our anger and resentment away and embrace God, by FORGIVING HIM::: but it is also such a funny coincidence that the parole hearing is coming up march 2004!!! and the letters are only to my sister and myself who attended his last parole hearing,.and not to my 3 older brothers!!! hmmmm could there be alteriar motives??? he is coming up for his 2nd parole hearing of a 17 to life sentence.. he is also up in age.. he is 65 now. he is currently in avenal state prison, in the medical section, he is afraid of being put in with the general population, so he fakes his injuries.He wheels around in a wheelchair. He suffered a gunshot wound to his spine in his criminal act. I am sorry that you had to wait so long for justice for your mom. I would love to hear from you if you wanted to talk. I am in california as well, i believe you spoke to amy of arkansas! I pray for peace in your life :-*mharo90@hotmail.com mary h haro daughter of maria 8/24/1989
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Post by rickerl5 on Oct 23, 2003 17:39:40 GMT -5
Hi Mary, Father hasn't tried asking himself if I could ever forgive him...it has always been done through his sisters. I was even told (and this is almost a direct quote) that if I didn't mend my ways I would be written out of my father's will...all I did was laugh and say good. Ironically I was invited to one of his sister's house to visit for the weekend after the trial...I politely declined, the stress of spending a weekend with his family was just toooo much to contemplate. Father is appealing the verdict, in fact that's where I'll be on Monday. Currently he is at calipatria State Prison...considering that's a very HOT part of the desert, it seems fitting . Not quite sure what to expect at the appeal, the Deputy DA is confident that we got a good conviction, but he also pointed out that you never can tell what will happen. Numerous people have been asking why I even plan on going down...hard to explain that I HAVE to. I need to hear what goes on in the court room, if for no other reason than to know the details of what was said. I figure that if I hear statements first hand and I don't agree with them and I know who to go to if I need to start fighting for justice. Yes, I have spoken with Amy...she mentioned you, but I hadn't e-mailed at that point. Take Care. Shaun
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Post by sara lain on Nov 4, 2003 5:20:33 GMT -5
I was saddened to hear about the loss that each of you has suffered through someone in your family. I'm a journalist who writes for woman magazines in the United Kingdom and I would be grateful to hear from any of you who would like to tell your story. Please contact me through saralain@btopenworld.com, or if you're phoning from the United Kingdom 01527 892123
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