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Post by lilyrose on Jul 20, 2003 21:11:04 GMT -5
My father just died on April 2nd. Myself and many other family and friends are certain it was a cruel April Fools joke. My half-sister has been trying to get ahold of my father's estate for some time. He told me himself that she was trying to kill him. She is a nurse. His doctor was confounded by his death. There are so many details that I don't want to list, but how do we get the homicide detectives to pay any notice? They say that basically she would have to admit to it. We don't want her to get away with murder. Where do we begin?
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Post by BethMariansChild on Jul 21, 2003 13:52:47 GMT -5
Lily Rose,
Please accept my sincere condolences on the tragic loss of your father. Parents are so very precious. It is so hard when we lose them to any means, much less a suspicious death such as this one.
First question: was there an autopsy done? Do you have a copy of the pathologist's (coroner's) report? What was the final cause of death? Manner of death?
Second question: do you have an attorney? Is s/he competent to practice criminal law? If not, do you think you could get a referral to someone who is?
I think you might benefit from talking to an attorney before you approach the Attorney General's (District Attorney) office regarding your suspicions. My feeling is that you have met a dead end with your local police, and they will need some direction to proceed on your case. The AG/DA's office would probably be next on my list to contact with questions regarding your father's death. Sometimes they see things in a different light from the police/sheriff.
Again, I am so very sorry this has happened to you and your father. Please know that you are in my thoughts today.
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Post by lilyrose on Jul 22, 2003 20:18:00 GMT -5
My dad was on the east coast, and I am on the west coast, so there is a logistics problem for me. Two other siblings are there and are going to talk to a detective. They have so many more details and much more information than I do. When I called the DA's office, I was referred to the homicide detective. I wonder how I can go about doing some investigation on my own? My younger sister talked to the doctor and he said he doesn't understand why my dad died, totally confounded about it. My half-sister, who is domineering and take charge, would not allow an autopsy. Being on the other coast, I had now way of being involved. I guess the detective was incredulous because he thinks that there would of been obvious signs, such as foam from his mouth if he overdosed. She has been planning this for so long, she is a little more clever than that. I believe she used something like insulin, or another drug that would cause his heart to stop. The victim himself told many people that she was trying to kill him. She went to his primary care physician and tried to get him to declare that my dad had dimensia, and the doctor refused. She just couldn't wait any longer to get his house. Did I mention she is a nurse? She left a great job for some unknown reason, to live in a hotel. She used to do daycare and a small child in her care supposedly stopped breathing and she saved his life. She is the hero. There must be a criminal profile for her. Since my dad died she has spent 20k cash on her face, teeth, and liposuction. I am getting scattered now, but what I want to say is that I know in my heart of hearts that this was a premeditated murder. She waited until my little sis was helpless in the hospital with surgery to carry it out. Little sis was always there for her daddy. I'm not sad anymore, I'm angry. I want to see her behind bars for life. She stole his life for her greed.
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Post by BethMariansChild on Jul 24, 2003 16:20:31 GMT -5
Lily Rose,
If this were happening to me, I would at this point file for a death certificate. This can be obtained from the Bureau of Vital Stastistics in the state where your father died. On the death certificate, there will be listed a "cause of death". There will also be listed the name of the coroner and the informant who found the dead person or who witnessed the death. (Was this death witnessed? If not, why *wasn't* there an autopsy done? That is a legal requirement for unwitnessed deaths in most states.) Be aware that it takes six to eight weeks after a death occurs before it is possible to obtain a death certificate unless you are the Executrix of the estate. As the Executrix of my grandmother's estate, I received my copies of the death certificate in about three weeks, but I would expect it to take a little longer for a request to the Bureau of Vital Statistics otherwise.
Know this - whoever paid for the funeral has copies of the death certificate if it has been three weeks since your father died.
I would then write the coroner's office and ask for a coroner's report. Even if there was no autopsy, there has to be a coroner's report.
This will give you something to talk about when you call the DA's office back and tell them what you have told me - that the homicide detective had no useful information. Ask any further questions you may have at that time.
If you do all this and get no where, you might want to consider getting a private detective. You can also consider calling an investigative reporter at a local television station if and when you have enough information to provide them with something substantial on which they can rationalize a look at your case. This kind of attention costs the station money, so you have to be able to present your case in the most convincing manner possible.
Remember, the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
I am not an attorney nor a law enforcement person. I am the daughter of a murder victim, a battering victim, and the mother of a sexual assault victim. I have volunteered as an advocate for victims of all types of violence against women and children, but I have no formal training in any of this. You might wish to contact an attorney who does have formal training in these matters for a professional opinion on what your alternatives might be.
In the meantime, I am here along with many others and will gladly walk through this with you every step of the way.
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Post by Lilyrose on Jul 24, 2003 20:09:21 GMT -5
Thank you for all of the useful information. It gives me a good place to start. My younger brother got a phone call and went to dad's house and met the ambulance there. He saw our dad die as he went through the door on the stretcher. Half-sister rushed to the hospital and told them "no autopsy". Thank you again, and if we make any progress or significant updates, I will post.
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