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Sept 7, 2004 22:57:09 GMT -5
Post by j on Sept 7, 2004 22:57:09 GMT -5
Just one week and one day ago, my mother (83) was murdered by my nephew (29). he has had a drug problem for years and my mother thinking she could help him let him stay with her. he was at her house for less than two weeks when it happened. we are two sisters and myself and my nephew being the son of my oldest sister. this has been devastating to my circle of family and friends. i am having a dificult time with it, also my best friend who was very close to my mother. i feel as if i am putting the grieving period off for another time, i guess my coping mechanism. i feel responsible for not doing something to get my mother out of harm's way (my drug addict nephew). is there anything any of you recommend? are there groups, like AA that help families deal with this? i know there will be trials ahead, but at this point i am thinking of how to keep my family sane. we are all suffering. thanks
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mother
Sept 8, 2004 0:33:49 GMT -5
Post by Amy M on Sept 8, 2004 0:33:49 GMT -5
You need to check with the DA's office, we have victim rights in my state and they pay for a certain amount of counseling. I'm not sure where you are, and it may depend on whether or not you are supporting the nephew (the accused) or if you are pushing for punishment for the crime. Sorry for your loss.
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mother
Sept 8, 2004 7:48:48 GMT -5
Post by Charlene on Sept 8, 2004 7:48:48 GMT -5
Hi J. I am very sorry about your mother. This is a very sad situation - please don't blame yourself for not keeping your mom safe. You certainly could not predict that someone would kill his own grandmother. A grandmother's love is strong and it is likely that you could not have talked her out of trying to help him, no matter what. In addition to contacting your DA's office to see if they have a victims assistance person, you also should see if there is a Parent's of Murdered Children group in your community. What state do you live in? POMC is not restricted to only parents, but is for all family and friends of murder victims. I am glad you have found our board; it is a good source of support and advice. Please stay in touch. Charlene Just one week and one day ago, my mother (83) was murdered by my nephew (29). he has had a drug problem for years and my mother thinking she could help him let him stay with her. he was at her house for less than two weeks when it happened. we are two sisters and myself and my nephew being the son of my oldest sister. this has been devastating to my circle of family and friends. i am having a dificult time with it, also my best friend who was very close to my mother. i feel as if i am putting the grieving period off for another time, i guess my coping mechanism. i feel responsible for not doing something to get my mother out of harm's way (my drug addict nephew). is there anything any of you recommend? are there groups, like AA that help families deal with this? i know there will be trials ahead, but at this point i am thinking of how to keep my family sane. we are all suffering. thanks
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mother
Sept 9, 2004 5:55:45 GMT -5
Post by j on Sept 9, 2004 5:55:45 GMT -5
Thank you. I am in Florida. J
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