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Post by kknoahmom on Jul 15, 2005 23:04:48 GMT -5
THIS WAS ALMOST 2 YEARS AGO. MY GRANDMA WAS STRANGLED. THE PERSON THE INVESTIGATORS THINK DID THIS IS MY MOMS HUSBAND. HE APPROX. 1 MONTH AGO HUNG HIMSELF. MY MOTHER WAS STILL WITH THIS MAN. IT KILLS ME. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK. I STILL HAVENT BEEN ABLE TO GRIEVE FOR MY GRANDMA BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN WAITING SO LONG FOR AN ARREST TO BE MADE. CAN YA BELIEVE WE WERE STILL WAITING ( AND STILL ARE) FOR EVIDENCE TO BE PROCESSED. THEN THE GUY WHO EVERYBODY THINKS DID THIS TAKES THE EASY WAY OUT. I DONT UNDERSTAND. IM SO ANGRY!! HAS ANYONE ELSE HAD SITUATIONS LIKE THIS. THE WAITING FOR ANSWERS HAS BEEN HORRIBLE. DOES EVERYONE IN THESE SITUATIONS HAVE TO WAIT FOR EVIDENCE? I'M SO GLAD THIS SIGHT WAS HERE. I DIDNT REALIZE THERE WAS SO MANY OTHERS GOING THROUGH THE SAME THINGS AS MY FAMILY.
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Post by wordup on Jul 16, 2005 1:19:09 GMT -5
HELLO: KKNOAHMOM I'M SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR GRANDMA. AND I'M SORRY YOU HAVE HAD TO FIND YOUR WAY TO THIS BOARD, I WANT YOU TO KNOW I REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUH, WHEN YOU SAY WAITING, LOOKS LIKE THIS IS ONE OF THE HARDEST THING TO DO. WHEN THERE IS SO MANY UNANSWERED QUESTIONS. MY SITUATION WAS NOT LIKE YOURS, BUT AT THE SAME TIME, IT WAS LIKE THE SYSTEM WAS REALLY MESSING MY MIND UP.
IT HAS BEEN OVER A YEAR AGO, AND AN APPEAL HAS BEEN FILED I GUESS, AND HERE I AM AGAIN WAITING, TO SEE WHAT ELSE THEY WANT TO DO TO MY FAMILY AND I. NOT ONLY THAT, THIS GUY WAS ORDER BY THE JUDGE TO GO DIRECTLY TO PRISON, BUT THE OTHER NIGHT I WAS TOLD HE IS WHERE HE WAS BEFORE THE TRIAL, SO NOW I WILL HAVE TO FIND OUT WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THIS PICTURE.
YES YOU ARE RIGHT FOR THAT GUY TO HANG HIMSELF, WAS TO EASY. NOW HE WANT HAVE TO DEAL WITH ANY OF THE THOUGHTS ABOUT WHAT HE DID, BUT THIS DOESN'T GIVE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ANY SATISFACTION.
AGAIN I'M SORRY YOU HAVE HAD TO COME TO THIS BOARD, BUT I'M GLAD YOU HAVE FOUND US, WE ARE A FAMILY, JUST TRYING TO DEAL WITH OUR LOSSES, WE ARE HERE FOR YOU, SO LET US KNOW HOW YOU ARE DOING.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jul 16, 2005 10:09:20 GMT -5
Dear KKnoahmom, I'm very sorry about your Grandma. I also lost my Grandma at the hands of a family member in 1990. Unfortunately, you've found out the in the worst way what my family and I did, that inter-family murder is the most common type of murder in the US. I'm very glad you found this board and hope you find comfort here. My family didn't have the experience that you've had with waiting for evidence. We did have a 7 year long waiting game as the perpetrator was mentally imcompetent for trial and was in the state hospital until she died. She passed the competency test 1 time but regressed once she knew she'd be sent for trial. You may want to check with Parents of murdered children if anyone there has info or advice on this. There's a link to them on this site. If there's a Victims' assistance office in your city they may be able to help also. People at this board will also help you as we've been there and know how you're feeling. Please keep us updated on how the case is going and how you are. Take care.
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Post by joanwakefield on Jul 23, 2005 23:32:32 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're going through this. My experience is more recent than yours, and I can only visit this forum every now and then because it's so painful.
I opened your post because I thought it may have been one of my children who posted it.l My mother shot and killed my father on June 7th, and my three adult children are grieving.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Please believe me when I say I know what you are feeling.... I guess all of us on this forum understand, or we wouldn't be here.
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