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Post by wordup on Feb 26, 2006 0:39:32 GMT -5
Hi Lisa, just let me tell you how sorry I am that you have found your way to this board, and I commend you for having the strenght to even post, you have vented and I have heard, I feel your confusion, and some I wonder, just how you have managed to get through it all, Yet I know that you are just like us, dealing with all things the best we can, finding ways to cope with the loss, yet haveing a father whom you love, being responable for this tragdity, It does sounds like you have mixed feeling about you dad today, and this I feel is normal, and if you have read any of the other posts on this board there are many like you, yet we are all here sharing the same comon ground, I wish there was something more I could do for you, but I tell you what I can be here for you as the rest will be, and if I can be of help further please feel free to say so, until the next time take care.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Feb 27, 2006 6:24:28 GMT -5
Dear Lisa, I'm very sorry about your Mom. I can understand your conflicting feelings about your Dad to a degree, as my Mother murdered my Dad when I was 24. I'm glad you found this board and told your story. Take care.
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Post by meme on Mar 15, 2006 21:13:05 GMT -5
Lisa, I am stunned. Your grandfather takes a tramatized child (who he is supposedto love) and is essentially orphaned through violence, and sexually abuses you! My God, how much hell can one person take? You are strong enough to post about the trama, and I admire you for that. _____________________________________________________ I wish for you peace of mind and no more heartache, ever. Your dad is the only one you have left, what a difficult position to be put in. God bless you.
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Post by tamècasmom on Mar 27, 2006 11:06:25 GMT -5
Limbololly, as I read your first post tears flowed down my face and a knot form in my stomach. You have a lot on your plate I am so glad you found this site I hope it helps you to understand you are not stupid.
Have you tried talking to the manager of your apartment to explain to them your circumstances sometimes you can run into good people. This might be the time for you to come in contact with a good person(s) and the manager will release you from the lease.
Once again, you are not stupid you are a grieving person that has a lot to deal with besides the loss of your love one. Please for me pat yourself on the back because you have conquered a lot to get where you are today. You are one brave person even though I never met you I would like to take this time to praise you for bringing yourself to this point in your life.
Your grandfather was an abuser, "Was your grandmother good to you?" I hope I did not offend you by asking about your grandmother.
You have been added to my prayer list. Take care of you.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Mar 27, 2006 11:11:27 GMT -5
I agree with Tamecasmom. Take care of yourself. It's worth checking with your landlord. 1 of the hardest things with all of us on here is having to deal with the perpetrator when he/she gets out. The system just doesn't provide enough protections. Take care and please keep us posted.
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Post by mattsma on Mar 27, 2006 19:42:05 GMT -5
hi Lisa, Did you say you contacted "his" attorney? Maybe you should contact the DA's office, or the parole board. I sounds like he is breaking his parole before he ever get out.............. good luck and keep yourself safe. deb
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Post by meme on Mar 27, 2006 20:41:14 GMT -5
MAttsmom is exactly right- tell the DA about the threats. The only thing as sleazy as a murderer is the oily, manipulltive, dirty-handed attorney who represents the murderer. ____________________________________ It is so common for a murderer (dark spirit) to con and trick others by putting on a false kinship, foux friendship, glazed with a toothy smile and sympathetic voice. How better to fool you, my dear? This was the same as Little Red Riding Hood. They depend on your good and trusting nature. He obviously wants to worry you. Put a tape recorder on your phone- he'll be right back in the big house. He is pretty dumb to warn you in advance. __________________________________________________ I don't think the lease agent would want a murder on their hands. Inform them on paper, send registered mail. You may be able to sue if they refuse your breaking the lease, or anything else happens- like him breaking in. You have a right to break your lease under dire circumstances. 30 days notice in most states. Every state has a list of renter's rights. Call the local magistrate, they know where you stand. Keep us posted!!!
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Post by hurtingfriend on Mar 27, 2006 21:14:21 GMT -5
Even if you signed a lease what is the penalty for breaking it? It could be worth it. Also, make sure you do NOT forward your mail. Please be careful and keep us updated. We are here for you.
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Post by meme on Mar 28, 2006 16:49:00 GMT -5
Thanks to the new privacy protection law, no forwarding address can be given out by the post office. You can always forward to a PO box, just to be safe.
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Post by wordup on Mar 29, 2006 0:59:15 GMT -5
I agree with all whom has spoken, and it also seem that your father played on your emotion, for him to threaten you in anyway is unexceptable, I would not trust him, sorry if this doesn't sound right, but you have been through so much already, and the thought of living in fear is something that I hope and pray that you won't have to do, Do keep us up on how you are doing.
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Post by meme on Mar 29, 2006 13:41:53 GMT -5
Bruces family warned me that the murderer or her evil family might come after me. I told them I would LOVE for them to come after me, I would like nothing better because I had "something for them". They looked at me in horror and are now afraid of ME. I never said what that "something" was, let them use their imagination. Word got to the murderer and her evil family that I had "something for them" and they are scared stiff. _____________________________________ Get a pistol permit, buy a pistol and learn how to use it.
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Post by hurtingfriend on Apr 1, 2006 17:45:23 GMT -5
Limbololly - how are you doing? I've been thinking about you and your safety. Please keep us posted.
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Post by eagenaw on Apr 20, 2006 18:37:10 GMT -5
I am new to this web site so Im not sure if I am doing this right Well my younger sisters name was Treasure Genaw. She was 17 at the time she was murdered on June 7, 2004 She was also 12 weeks pregnant with my nephew. (they were able to determine the sex during aoutopsy) which was my request. I was 23 at the time. Her and I were bestest friends. We talked everyday and saw eachother mostly everyday. She was a senior in high school and worked at dunkin donuts for 4 years. she also worked as lna at a nursing home. Anyways to get to the point- she was with her boyfriend for about 1 year. He had lived with pretty much every family member including myself. We all thuoght we knew him. We were wrong!!! he was 19 when he killed her. She had broken up with him because she realized she could have this baby on her own. he stalked her for two weeks. begging to get her back. One day he met her at my brothers house and told her he wanted to go for a ride and talk. she was driving. Somehow they ended up down a dirt road which turned into a atv trail. I guess they were arguing and he stabbed her in the eye with a utlitiy knife. Then her stomache, he sliced her throat from one end to the other. stabbed her 6 more times. the last time he tried to get her heart but punctured her lung instead. that last stab is how she died. her lung colapsedand she could no longer breath. She cried and pleaded for her life begging him to stop and saying "please stop I love you!!!" he said "its too late now treasure" and kept stabbing her killing her. I know this is pretty gory but I really needed to talk about it. He drove off in her car after he dragged her body into the passanger seat. He then drove into Maine and dropped her body off in some bushes. He said he saw her take her last breath. He coverd her face with some of her pants that were in the back while he was on his way to dump her off. In the meanitime- I was at my house and all of a sudden a sting sense that something was wrong came over me. I called to talk to my sister at my brothers and they said she went with Tony to get ice cream but now that they thought of it it had been more then an hour. 10 minutes went byand my step mom called me saying the police went to her house to ask where Treasure was because they had found her car but no Treasure in it. They failed to mentuion that it was covered in blood. So my whole entire family was frightened but none of thought that Tomy really would have done anhting to hurt her. We were wrong. We all took flashlights andn went our seperate ways lookinf for her, calling her name trying to find her in the woods nearby where teens go sometimes. We all searchesd different areas. Finally the police station called me and my parents downtown, sat us down at a big table some men in siuits came in and sat down and said "we are very sorry to tell you that we found the body of Treasure Genaw" I lost it. we all did. There is so much more to tell. I think I should write a book. I dont ecxpect anyone to actually take the time to read this but it would be great for some feedback if anyone has time. The trial was this past summer at the end of June but that is a whole nother story to tell to make a long story short, Tony was convicted of firts degree murder and senteced to life without prole. If you research h er name on the web you will learn a lot about my sister and what a great person she was. There were over 1200 people that attended her wake. There were line and lines of people waiting to pay there respects. It was so hard. Over 800 attended her funeral. There were so many people we ahd set up 3 big screen tvs outside and in different areas of the building for people to watch the service. I miss her so much. She was my best frien in the whole world and now I have no one to talk to anymore. If I didnt have kids I probly would have took my own life to be with her. I could write forever Sorry
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Post by toniga on Apr 21, 2006 0:33:56 GMT -5
eagenaw I am very sorry about your sister and your loss.If you would like to start a new thread thats okay to introduce your self.I will look up your sisters name on the web.Please hang in there and if you need anything I am here for you!
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Post by wordup on Apr 21, 2006 0:42:40 GMT -5
HI:eagenaw and welcome, you are wrong about no one reading, I read every line, and what that guy did to your sister, was no doubt his intention (to take her life), you know we all struggle here trying to understand the why's, and I know this had to be even harder for the family, because you knew this guy and no one thought he would do something like that. I know how you guys feel about that too.
You said you and your sister were really close, so that makes things even harder, yet I'm so glad that you do have children as this is a blessing that kept you from doing something that would have cause further pain to the family.
we all share your pain right now, and we understand, We are here to talk to you and to listen to whatever you have to say, we are not all here everyday, but someone is, if I can be of any help to you please feel free to call on me, I'm here and I have found this board to be most helpful for people like us, so come and vent when you feel like it, in the mean time take care.
One last thing, before I go, your sister must have been a beautiful spirited person for all of those people to have came out to pay respect, So this is worth a thought. I will go and look Up, what you have told us and learn more.
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Post by tamècasmom on Apr 21, 2006 7:42:52 GMT -5
Eagneaw, it was not easy reading but read your post I did. I am so sorry your family had to go through the lost of a loved one in such a horrific manner. Please do not think your words are not read because I believe on this site every post is read. I can tell you that I do not respond to all the posts but I read the post because reading the post help me to help myself. Reading posts also, lets me know how others are coping/dealing or not coping/dealing with their lost and what they are doing to help them make it through a day. I only post if I feel my words might help the postee.
Take care of you.............your sister would want it that way.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Apr 21, 2006 10:09:53 GMT -5
I agree with the others. All are heard on here. I think it would be wonderful for you to write a book. Your book could help others make it through as you have. It can be a tribute to the goodness of your sister's life. I'm so sorry about what was done to her. I'm glad you found this board. Take care.
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Post by drewsmom595 on Apr 21, 2006 17:31:14 GMT -5
Hi eagenaw:
I'm glad you found your way to this website, and had the courage to post. It helps to air your feelings among people who have experienced similar horrors as you. It helps you feel less alone. Please know that although we haven't met, that I do care about you, and I hope you post again real soon. Take care, and give your kids an extra big hug for me.
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Post by meme on Apr 25, 2006 20:58:17 GMT -5
Hi and welcome. In order for each story to be read by all, you could do as earlier suggested. Start a new thread. ________________________ Look at the top instructions in bold over a thread. There you will find the link on the far upper right. That way, we can find YOUR post and reply to YOU, instead of thinking this post is about another person's story. Don't worry, we are all here to help you and each other. Bless you, you will find strength, and maybe some answers here.
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Post by dreamweaver on Aug 23, 2006 16:16:00 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you had to endure such a tragity, but you have held on to one very important thing, your kids. I know the feelings about that, because if it were not for my two, I would have ended it long ago. They need you, they will always need you, and as a parent, from the first moment they are born, we have a responsibility to love, cherish, and to try, to the best of our abbilities, to protect them. I know that sometimes this can not be done, but we must stay, if not for ourselves, then for the kids. Don't lose heart, dear one, for the way to keep those that are stolen from us is to never forget the goldern memories that will live on forever in our hearts and minds. Your sister will be by your side forever, in spirit, because she was so loved by you.
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