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Post by drewsmom595 on Apr 11, 2006 6:11:13 GMT -5
This Friday (April 14th) will be the third birthday that my Dad won't be here physically to celebrate his birthday with us. I thought it would get easier, but so far it hasn't really. I still miss him terribly, and holidays are the hardest because there's any empty chair at the table.
Does anyone have any hints for making these hard holidays better? I thought about going to the card store and picking out a card for him, or baking a cake for him (as I would've if he were here).
Some day, I hope that I can remember him without tears welling in my eyes. It's like all the good memories I have of him get overshadowed by the horrible way he died.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Apr 11, 2006 10:03:02 GMT -5
Sadiversaries are always very hard. I make sure to get out of the house on those days. If I stay in alone I feel worse. I sometimes go have a good dinner out, or go to the bookstore, something that brings back good memories of my loved 1. Something that we used to do together. Driving by the places my Dad and I used to go brings me comfort also. You'll be in my prayers on that day. Take care.
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Post by mattsma on Apr 11, 2006 10:55:50 GMT -5
:-*hello drewsmom, Once upon a time I also thought it would get easier as time passed. It hasn't for me either, so I just try to remember how lucky I am that I had Matt for 19 years. I like the idea of buying your dad a card, and baking a cake. I made Matt's favorite cake the first birthday he wasn't with us. I make new memorial shirts every year for his birthdayand the day he passed........but I wear them alot..........makes me feel close to him. take care & b-safe deb
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Post by meme on Apr 11, 2006 19:05:52 GMT -5
Some people like the idea of having lots of photos around the house, and keepsakes that have a special meaning. My house looks like a memorial museum for my mother and Bruce. I talk to them and their photographs because I know they hear me. It is so peaceful to pray and light three white candles for the Holy Trinity in your loved one's honor.
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Post by drewsmom595 on Apr 15, 2006 5:06:46 GMT -5
Hello everyone!!
Thanks for the words of advice. His birthday was yesterday, and it wasn't too bad. I was really busy at work that day, and I think that helped... as did all your hints!!
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