Post by meoh on Aug 17, 2007 6:47:16 GMT -5
Hello Everyone,
My name is AJ and I recently lost my youngest sister *24 y.o.* to a gruesome murder by her husband*34y.o.* on January 28th, 2007. This death has really taken a toll on me and my family especially my mom and dad. My sister and this man had been married for 2 years prior to her death, he was always this sneaky, possessive individual, when they first announced they were getting married my parents found it perculiar mainly because he never introduce himself to us, my sister was already pregnant with their daughter before she married him and she already had a child from her previous relationship with her h.s. sweetheart, so they got married although my parents did not approve of it, the husband was not a citizen of the U.S. my sister helped him get his green card papers together, earning him his temporary green card in June 2006, after he received his temp green card he suddenly started becoming jealous of her 4 year old's father, assuming they were trying to get back together *which was hardly the case* and told her to not contact him anymore, which to me is wrong because he knew she had a child before they got married and the father of that child was very active in that child's life, so what fair would that had been to that child not to see her own father? Anywho.. from then on he started calling the 4 y.o. father playing on his cell phone asking him stupid questions about why is he calling his wife and etc. etc. making my sister very frustrated of his insecurity. So after Sept. 2006 their marriage started getting worse to the point of him showing up to my sis job sitting in the parking lot calling her cell phone numerous times while my she's suppose to be working *she worked as a RN at a nursing home (double shifts most of the time)*. His jealousy would later lead to him abusing her *which we did not know about until after the murder*, The weird thing about this marriage this man's name wasn't on any bills around the house*talk about being the man of the house*, his name manage to be on the lease because they got the apartment they were living in together. So fast forward to Decemeber 2006, my sister decided it was best that they part ways, she announced to him that she had planned to move out into her own apartment with the 2 kids, at the time he was ok with it, until.. She brought her self a new car for her birthday Dec. 27th, January when she decided to take her 4 year old to New York to see her dad for the child's birthday the weekend of her death, our parents also lives in New York, so the plans were for her to drop the 4 year old off to her dad's house and afterwards she went over to my parents house with the 2 year old to spend the night, that's when the husband started calling her cell phone numerous times assuming she was out "on a hot date" with her baby father *which wasn't the case*, when he got tired of calling her cell phone he started calling my parent's phone calling hanging up when someone answers, and the assumptions started to pile up from then on. She left New York the 28th to go back home to PA, my mom told her when she gets home to call her and let her know she arrived alright, she said ok, she got home about 4pm that afternoon, she called my mom and said she arrived safely, she was about to cook something for the kids to eat and she would call her back later, my mom said ok. When my mom did not hear from her she got worried and called her but she never got an answer, my mom did not think nothing of it she just thought my sis was busy with the kids. About 7pm that evening the police called my mom to tell her that her husband had killed her in their kitchen while the 2 little girls watched..... He took a clawhammer and hit my sister 32 Times to the head and left her liefeless body there he then called 911 and told them she is dead and that he killed her ,he then dropped the phone, went into the bathroom and attempted to commit suicide by mixing a concotion of comet bleach powder and pills together but he did not succeed with that, while he was in the bathroom doing this the 4 year old picked up the phone he had dropped and told the cops that her mommy and daddy are dying, she told them her mommy had a big boo boo on her head and she is bleeding and isn't moving.....the cops came finding the 2 year old sitting in the pool of blood in the kitchen trying to wake her mommy up screaming hysterically while the 4 year old was sitting nervously under the dining table. My older sis that also lives in PA was called to come get the kids from the next door neighbors house, my mom called me screaming hysterically of how my lil sister is dead, me living in D.C., my mom in N.Y., my dad was out of the country on vacation at the time...This was the beginning to a sad moment in our lives, this man damaged my little sister's body so bad we had to have a close casket at the funeral ... Fast Forward to his trial recently last week out of his merciless confession and shameless humilation he tried to say my sister was not a good wife to him, and they were arguing that afternoon and she tried to cut him with a knife *which she probably picked up when he tried to lay his hands on her once again*, so he grabbed the hammer and did what he did... The jury found him only guilty of involuntary manslaughter, Murder 1= Not Guilty, Murder 3= Not Guilty, am I frustrated? yes.. is this right? Hell no.. Judge will be sentencing him on Sept 24th.. what kind of sick world are we living in?? The 4 year old is forever terrified of him constantly telling me " She does not want him to come out and get her", I assured her that her and her 2 year old sister *which now has no mommy or daddy anymore* will never have to worry about him ever again, at least the 4 year old still has her dad that resides in New York, my mom has custody of the 2 year old, while the 4 year old's father has full custody of his daughter... How do I get through this?? I can barely sleep at night just knowing that justice was not served correctly on this case, my mom is barely holding up but she's trying to remain strong for the kids. I don't feel completely comfortable talking to my friends or my fiance' about this because being that they haven't gone through what I went through they can never understand, but they do notice how depressed I've become since this incident and even more since the trial's verdict.. Please help me, who do I talk to? where do I go from here??
Thanks for reading..
My name is AJ and I recently lost my youngest sister *24 y.o.* to a gruesome murder by her husband*34y.o.* on January 28th, 2007. This death has really taken a toll on me and my family especially my mom and dad. My sister and this man had been married for 2 years prior to her death, he was always this sneaky, possessive individual, when they first announced they were getting married my parents found it perculiar mainly because he never introduce himself to us, my sister was already pregnant with their daughter before she married him and she already had a child from her previous relationship with her h.s. sweetheart, so they got married although my parents did not approve of it, the husband was not a citizen of the U.S. my sister helped him get his green card papers together, earning him his temporary green card in June 2006, after he received his temp green card he suddenly started becoming jealous of her 4 year old's father, assuming they were trying to get back together *which was hardly the case* and told her to not contact him anymore, which to me is wrong because he knew she had a child before they got married and the father of that child was very active in that child's life, so what fair would that had been to that child not to see her own father? Anywho.. from then on he started calling the 4 y.o. father playing on his cell phone asking him stupid questions about why is he calling his wife and etc. etc. making my sister very frustrated of his insecurity. So after Sept. 2006 their marriage started getting worse to the point of him showing up to my sis job sitting in the parking lot calling her cell phone numerous times while my she's suppose to be working *she worked as a RN at a nursing home (double shifts most of the time)*. His jealousy would later lead to him abusing her *which we did not know about until after the murder*, The weird thing about this marriage this man's name wasn't on any bills around the house*talk about being the man of the house*, his name manage to be on the lease because they got the apartment they were living in together. So fast forward to Decemeber 2006, my sister decided it was best that they part ways, she announced to him that she had planned to move out into her own apartment with the 2 kids, at the time he was ok with it, until.. She brought her self a new car for her birthday Dec. 27th, January when she decided to take her 4 year old to New York to see her dad for the child's birthday the weekend of her death, our parents also lives in New York, so the plans were for her to drop the 4 year old off to her dad's house and afterwards she went over to my parents house with the 2 year old to spend the night, that's when the husband started calling her cell phone numerous times assuming she was out "on a hot date" with her baby father *which wasn't the case*, when he got tired of calling her cell phone he started calling my parent's phone calling hanging up when someone answers, and the assumptions started to pile up from then on. She left New York the 28th to go back home to PA, my mom told her when she gets home to call her and let her know she arrived alright, she said ok, she got home about 4pm that afternoon, she called my mom and said she arrived safely, she was about to cook something for the kids to eat and she would call her back later, my mom said ok. When my mom did not hear from her she got worried and called her but she never got an answer, my mom did not think nothing of it she just thought my sis was busy with the kids. About 7pm that evening the police called my mom to tell her that her husband had killed her in their kitchen while the 2 little girls watched..... He took a clawhammer and hit my sister 32 Times to the head and left her liefeless body there he then called 911 and told them she is dead and that he killed her ,he then dropped the phone, went into the bathroom and attempted to commit suicide by mixing a concotion of comet bleach powder and pills together but he did not succeed with that, while he was in the bathroom doing this the 4 year old picked up the phone he had dropped and told the cops that her mommy and daddy are dying, she told them her mommy had a big boo boo on her head and she is bleeding and isn't moving.....the cops came finding the 2 year old sitting in the pool of blood in the kitchen trying to wake her mommy up screaming hysterically while the 4 year old was sitting nervously under the dining table. My older sis that also lives in PA was called to come get the kids from the next door neighbors house, my mom called me screaming hysterically of how my lil sister is dead, me living in D.C., my mom in N.Y., my dad was out of the country on vacation at the time...This was the beginning to a sad moment in our lives, this man damaged my little sister's body so bad we had to have a close casket at the funeral ... Fast Forward to his trial recently last week out of his merciless confession and shameless humilation he tried to say my sister was not a good wife to him, and they were arguing that afternoon and she tried to cut him with a knife *which she probably picked up when he tried to lay his hands on her once again*, so he grabbed the hammer and did what he did... The jury found him only guilty of involuntary manslaughter, Murder 1= Not Guilty, Murder 3= Not Guilty, am I frustrated? yes.. is this right? Hell no.. Judge will be sentencing him on Sept 24th.. what kind of sick world are we living in?? The 4 year old is forever terrified of him constantly telling me " She does not want him to come out and get her", I assured her that her and her 2 year old sister *which now has no mommy or daddy anymore* will never have to worry about him ever again, at least the 4 year old still has her dad that resides in New York, my mom has custody of the 2 year old, while the 4 year old's father has full custody of his daughter... How do I get through this?? I can barely sleep at night just knowing that justice was not served correctly on this case, my mom is barely holding up but she's trying to remain strong for the kids. I don't feel completely comfortable talking to my friends or my fiance' about this because being that they haven't gone through what I went through they can never understand, but they do notice how depressed I've become since this incident and even more since the trial's verdict.. Please help me, who do I talk to? where do I go from here??
Thanks for reading..