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Post by briandennis on Jul 19, 2005 16:43:43 GMT -5
It was January 17/04 10.30 PM and my family and I were watching TV when I got the call. "Your father has been murdered". I remember every detail of that night and even today I still can,t believe that it is true. My loving father, a handicapped 73 year old was forced to his knees and a gun placed in his mouth, robed of his life and $40.00. It has been 6 months since my last post. I have not had the heart to visit this site because I feel everyones pain. But the day's are getting hard for me again and I feel I need the support of people who truly understand what I am going through. Any secrets to coping?
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Post by mattsma on Jul 19, 2005 20:17:29 GMT -5
hi brian, Good to see you again. I am sorry that you are feeling down in the dumps , and wish I could offer you a quick fix, but I haven't found one either. When things feel really off the hook for me, I try to focus on all the good memories. Happy tears are better than sad ones. Take care, and don't be such a stranger around here. b-safe deb
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jul 20, 2005 17:26:16 GMT -5
Dear Briandennis, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. This world truly has evil people who don't even think there's anything wrong with them, and what was done to your Dad was evil. The things that have helped me cope are: psychotherapy. My 1st doctor I saw for many years. Going to Parents of Murdered Children meetings for a few years. I also got counseling at my church on the spiritual aspects of the whole thing that regular therapy didn't cover. And coming to this board is a huge help. You find people here who really care and know how it is. I still have what I call my "bad days" when I think the worst of everyone and everything. And I'd love to know the "ultimate why" of why this happened, but I may never know in this life. I really struggle with this, the ultimate why of why good people are killed. There is a huge amount of abuse of the gift of free will, but why does God sometimes intervene and other times not? Please keep coming to the board, we care about you and what you're going through. In my personal experience, keeping going has been very worth it to me. I resolved to never live the life that the perpetrator in our case did. I want to do the opposite of all of that, but I have to admit it's a day to day struggle with my tendency to self-destruct, what in AA is called "your disease". But I know to not fight it is to give in. You can be proud that you and the authorities are still working on finding the perpetrators in your case. I know most likely I'm rambling...thanks for bearing with me! Please keep coming to the board and like Deb said think of your good memories. Those are treasures you'll always have. Take care.
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Post by wordup on Jul 20, 2005 23:16:04 GMT -5
HI BRIAN D I AGREE WITH DEB AND PUMPKIN, I WANT TO TELL YOU THAT I'M SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOUR DAYS ARE NOT GOING AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO, BUT ON THE OTHER HAND WANT TO SAY I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE FEELING, AND IT IS OK BECAUSE WE ARE ALL DEALING WITH THESE ISSUES THE BEST WAY WE CAN,
THERE HAVE BEEN A SUGGESTION TO SEEK OUTSIDE HELP, BUT FOR ME I DIDN'T, I FOUND THIS BOARD AND I READ WHAT OTHERS WERE GOING THROUGH, AND YES THEY WOULD JUST BRAKE MY HEART, YET AT THE SAME TIME AS I KEPT COMING, THERE WERE THOSE SAME PEOPLE WHOM POSTS BROKE MY HEART, TURNED AROUND AND GAVE ME WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT, THEY REALLY LIFED MY SPIRITS.
WHAT I'M SAYING TO YOU IS THIS, IF YOU CAN'T FIND OUTSIDE HELP, THEN STAY WITH US AND LET US HELP YOU THROUGH THESE TRYING TIMES, WE KNOW, WE UNDERSTAND, AND WE REALLY DO CARE ABOUT YOU, UNTIL THE NEXT TIME, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
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