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Post by briandennis on Nov 11, 2005 17:39:06 GMT -5
This January will mark 2 years since my father was murdered. In that time frame nothing has changed. the case remains unsolved. I have no idea if the police have any leads or if they even are still working the case. I email the police and they do not reply, I leave messages and they don't call back.
This lack of communication 6 months ago left me angry and frustrated. Today apathy has set in. I just do not have the emotional strength and energy to constantly yell and scream for justice. It is almost as if I took all my grief and sorrow and slipped under a rock never to be herd from again.
I owe it to my father to do everything in my power to resolve this. But I am powerless, nothing I can do will change what has happened and I can not solve the crime.
Is apathy part of the healing process? Does yelling louder really make a difference?
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Post by mattsma on Nov 11, 2005 23:17:49 GMT -5
hello brian, :'(I am sorry you are feeling so helpless. The system seems to conviently forget that we are left behind, to clean up the emotional mess. I can only imagine how upsetting this must be for you. It took 2 years until sentencing was over with, and those two years seemed like a lifetime. This nightmare is so draining, in more ways than one. Do you have any support groups in your area? How about Victims Assistance? They are directly connected to the district attorney's office, and should at least be able to answer some of your questions. I know that the police dept. can be very hard to deal with. Try to get some answers from your victim's advocate. Demand it! You have earned the right to know where things stand with the case.
(((hugs)))) b-safe deb
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Post by deb2u on Nov 16, 2005 0:46:24 GMT -5
Hi Brian, Im so sorry for your loss. I know your pain. My father was murdered two years ago and his case remains unsolved. I recently wrote to the D.A. of that county and it did draw some attention to my Dads case. Im not sure if it will lead to anything but we'll see. Maybe you should try to write to the D.A. of the county where your Dad was murdered. Im sorry I dont have any powerful advice to give you yet, thats because I'm in the same situation as you. Just know that you and your Dad are in my thoughts and prayers. Sincerely, deb2u
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Nov 20, 2005 8:26:10 GMT -5
Dear Brian, I'm very sorry about what you're going through. I think Deb gave you some very good advice about how to keep the case alive with the authorities. I wish I had more advice to give, but I don't, as my family didn't go through this. However, 1 thing I do know and that's we're here for you on this board. Please keep writing us when you need us and we'll be there for you. You and your family will be in my prayers. Take care and please keep us updated on the case. Take care.
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Post by wordup on Nov 20, 2005 21:09:56 GMT -5
I DO AGREE WITH DEB ALSO, AND I'M SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR LOSS AND THE ANGRISH THAT YOU ARE HAVING TO ENDURE.
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Post by ianwal on Nov 22, 2005 0:48:09 GMT -5
hi Brian,
I'm so very sorry your feeling frustarated at this time, My father was Murdered nov 16th 1982 unsoved homosice, 23 years now the pain is still the same as if it was yestarday but i'm finally talking about it.
Your not alone, just like i found out 4 days ago when i found this sight. your in our prayers too.
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