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Post by beemo on May 27, 2008 12:07:36 GMT -5
My nephew was sentenced today, after being convicted of 1st degree murder in March. He was given 22 years out of a possible 30.
I didn't attend the sentencing, I had really no interest in going. I found much peace after the trial and really didn't want to go see my nephew again and how supportive my mom is.
My father-in-law attended, so I will get details from him later, but apparently my mom and our old next door neighbor spoke on my newphew's behalf (probably others too). It's just sad that everyone seems to forget that my dad bled to death in his own driveway at the hands of his own grandson. But, that's exactly why I didn't go, I didn't want to see everyone rally around my nephew. I could have given a statement for my dad, but felt that it wouldn't change much and probably just cause more tension with my mom. I hope my dad will forgive me.
Yay! Send him away!
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Post by wordup on May 27, 2008 21:46:33 GMT -5
Wow I know all of that was hard on you, and I feel what you said about not attending, You said that you had peace afterward, that is what is important right now. Hang in there, Take care of yourself.
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Post by taterfay on May 28, 2008 18:53:26 GMT -5
Hi beemo:
It must be frustrating to be part of a family so divided about your dad's murder. I am glad you are satisfied with his sentencing. I'm sure your dad loves you no matter what you do:)
Big Hugs! Stacey
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Post by drewsmom595 on May 29, 2008 5:14:35 GMT -5
I'm glad you found peace after the trial beemo. And I pray that you will continue to find peace and joy in your life...in spite of all the family dynamics.
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Post by beemo on May 30, 2008 11:44:28 GMT -5
It is hard, sometimes I feel guilty for not being more sympathetic to my nephew, sometimes I do feel kind of bad for him.....and other times I really don't care.
What I do know is that the judge did a very thorough job reviewing the case, and gave a fair verdict with the evidence presented. My nephew plead not guilty by reason of insanity, and the judge felt the requirements for the insanity plea were not met. I agree. Mentally ill doesn't always equal insane. And when you kill someone, there are consequences.
Thank you for all your thoughts & prayers.
P.S. Today's my dad's birthday. He would have been 67. I may have to drink a red beer for him (even though I hate tomato juice!). Happy Birthday Dad!<3
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Post by drewsmom595 on Jun 3, 2008 20:39:20 GMT -5
Hi Beemo:
I agree with you that mentally ill doesn't necessarily mean insane.
I hope your Dad's birthday wasn't toooo hard for you. I think your Dad would've appreciated you drinking a red beer in his honor.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Jun 4, 2008 10:12:08 GMT -5
Hi Beemo: I agree with you that mentally ill doesn't necessarily mean insane. I hope your Dad's birthday wasn't toooo hard for you. I think your Dad would've appreciated you drinking a red beer in his honor. I agree 100%! Those of us whose cases involved mental illness know this difference! Beemo, I'm glad you're happy with the sentence. Inter-family murder can really tear up families. I hate it so much! You're 100% right in that even IF a murderer is insane, he/she is still accountable. Every murderer is accountable no matter what his/her mental state. Thanks for the update. Take care.
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Post by bethsfriend on Jun 6, 2008 10:06:33 GMT -5
I am so glad you found peace. I'm hoping I'm big enough to find the same. On a lighter note....What's a red beer?
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Post by beemo on Jun 6, 2008 12:05:47 GMT -5
I am so glad you found peace. I'm hoping I'm big enough to find the same. On a lighter note....What's a red beer? A red beer is beer & tomato juice (sounds yucky, huh!), but my dad really liked them. I didn't end up drinking one, we baked a birthday cake instead and watched the memorial video. It hit my kids pretty hard. My 3-year old daughter jumped off my lap and said, "my eyes want to cry!", and my 7-year old son cried too, saying "I miss Papa Jim!" My daughter was only 1 1/2 years when it happened, so it's good to know she remembers Papa Jim a little bit. She's been talking about him a lot this last week, wondering if he'll come down from Heaven to do this or that. She was quite upset with me when I ate the last piece of birthday cake, because she wanted to save it for Papa Jim.
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Post by bethsfriend on Jun 7, 2008 8:06:10 GMT -5
OMG....that is so cute. It's amazing how the young ones deal with this. My youngest is 8 and haqs always brought the positive things to light during this. Even at the wake her smile was contagious. God bless you & your family....and smart move not to drink that red beer....yuck!
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