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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Nov 20, 2010 18:00:03 GMT -5
It seems it starts earlier every year, when the stores are filled with Thanksgiving and Christmas things. That may be good for the retailers, but it's not so easy for me sometimes. In the first years after my daughter's murder, I would be fighting back the tears every time I heard a Christmas carol; she loved singing Christmas carols; I always loved hearing her singing them too. I could not bring myself to even put one decoration on the tree myself; others did that. When I started wrapping presents that first Christmas after, I found a bow with a name tag attached with her name on it, and just crumbled. Now I can't remember for sure who finished wrapping those presents. It was so hard to get anything done, to get anything ready. For those who might not yet know, Charlene is the wonderful lady who makes this board available to us so we can share. Some years ago she asked regular board members here if they could think of suggestions that might help some of us get through the holidays just a bit easier. There is a link at the top "Holidays and Grief" that will take you to these helpful suggestions anytime you want to see. Or you could also click here: www.murdervictims.com/Holidays.htmI have tried some of those suggestions over the years that have helped me to get through the hard parts better. I hope there are some things in there that might help some of you too. and if anyone else here would like to share something that has helped them along the way, that would be wonderful too. Janet
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Post by c21king2queen on Nov 21, 2010 15:39:00 GMT -5
Thanks for sharing the link. I have already seen that link in the last few years. I know how difficult this time of year can be. The first holiday season after my husband was murdered, I cried when I was shopping with my mom because of all the decorations and Christmas music. I remember telling my mother that my husband should be here and we won't get to celebrate Christmas with him. It is still hard to deal with, but I am learning to live with it. Every holiday, anniversary, birthday, and any other significant dates are difficult because the love of my life, my husband, and father of my only child is not here and I have to live without him. I have to live with that everyday, but the holidays are especially hard. Thanksgiving was the first holiday I celebrated with my husband before we were married, right after we started dating. Even after everything my son and I have been through and even though Thanksgiving is so tough, we still have a lot to be Thankful for. My heart and prayers go out to all Murder Victim Survivors. Happy Thanksgiving!!
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