Post by c21king2queen on Nov 26, 2010 16:21:40 GMT -5
Here we were all seated around the table for Thanksgiving Dinner, my parents, brother, his wife, their little girl, my son and I. My son heard his cousin calling her father "daddy." He is mildly to moderately Autistic and has a tendency to repeat anything he hears. He called his Uncle "daddy." My niece replied, "You don't have a daddy." That is a bit insensitive. I kept my mouth shut, but wanted to say, "Yes he does have a daddy. His daddy is in Heaven doing a special job for God." My brother and his wife really should talk to her about what happens when people die and teach her what is the appropriate way of treating others who have lost family, especially the loss of a parent. Next time she makes an insensitive remark about my son's father, I will have a talk with her myself and I will be the one to teach her. My son knows daddy left for work one day and never came home. I have told him that "daddy" is in Heaven doing a special job for God, he is watching over us all the time and he loves us very much. That is all he needs to know now. When he is much older and old enough to understand, I will explain to him as nicely as I can what really happened to his father. There is no real nice way to explain that evil, selfish, and greedy people blew daddy's head off for a piece of land. There is no easy way to say that some people believe that a piece of land is worth more than a human life. All human life is priceless, precious, valuable and irreplaceable. I have decided that I will not sale that land back to the murderers family. If they didn't want to loose the land, then they should have never signed it over to their son who conned my husband into buying it from him, because he was desparate for money. His family would have been better off giving him all the money he wanted, instead of the land. His family should have practiced tough love with him long, long ago. They would have been better off and my husband would be alive. Why should I ever give them the satisfaction of forgiveness for what they did to my husband and for what my son and I have been through and will continue to go through for the rest of our lives?? What we have been through you never get over and never forget. My son and I have to live with all of this for the rest of our lives. Holidays can be a difficult time, especially when others don't understand and say things that are insensitive. I know my niece didn't intend to be mean or insensitive. She is only 4 years old, but she does need to be taught. I believe I will have a talk with her next time she says something insensitive pertaining to my son's "daddy." This is one example of all that my son and I deal with and will have to continue to deal with for the rest of our lives. Holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries are especially difficult. At least now Thanksgiving is over with for this year. Even though my son and I have been through so much and lost so much, we still have a lot to be Thankful for everyday. Prayers to all!!