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Post by amandafitzy on Feb 7, 2012 22:30:56 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you justice in your fathers death. You are a wonderful son to be so aware that mental illness, does not mean lack of love. Good luck.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Feb 8, 2012 15:24:42 GMT -5
Dear affliction, I'm very sorry about your Dad. I'm glad you found this board and hope you find some comfort here. I can identify to a degree with your upset as my Mother was in the state mental hospital the last years of her life and her treatment there wasn't always the best. Her guardian (she was declared mentally incompetent by the courts which was the right decision) was always intervening to make sure she got the right care plus at the times she didn't get the right care. Her last medical doctor before she committed 2 murders (which is why I'm on this board) was a real ###***. My family took him to civil court and it was worth all that effort. We didn't win the case, but we did what needed to be done to hold him accountable. The jury DID agree with us that he didn't even provide the MINIMUM standard of care and that was a vindication for us. On the other charge they didn't agree with us so we lost the case since at that time in Texas medical malpractice verdicts were "all or nothing". Anyway, it was ALL worth it to go to court. I wish you the best with your case and hope justice is done. The emotions you're feeling are normal for what's happened to you. If you want information on how those of us on here have worked on our feelings to recover as best as possible after our tragedies you're welcome to ask. Again, welcome to the board. Take care.
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Feb 9, 2012 6:11:03 GMT -5
Pumpkin, thank you for sharing. I need to find ways to deal with my issues. I had for the first time in nearly 10 years just seek ed medical help for myself. I have been battling these flash backs, nightmares, insomnia, depression, social avoidance for a very long time. I just always had though that ignoring my issues would eventually dissolve them. The clear picture here is that they never just go away, from the years of not treating my issues they had increased. It seems like I'm in my own bubble, now that I actually look at my issues with an open mind. My wife has pushed me to seek some counseling, first appointment is May 7Th 2012. Sorry to here about the neglect your mother had received, it's tragic that the people we should actually trust can actually let you down in traumatic ways. Dear affliction, you're welcome! The symptoms you're having are some that are part of post-traumatic stress disorder. They also match panic disorder. PTSD and panic if NOT treated will get worse and worse. They can end up leaving you so sick you can't hold down a job. I'm very happy you're going to get treatment! Please know that there's likely going to be heartless, arrogant and wilfully ignorant people you'll run into who will make fun of you, say you're weak, say you should be able to heal without treatment, etc., etc. Please realize they're buying into the MANY lies about these diseases put out by ###*** in society. You're NOT weak and these diseases are the results of trauma. Actually, it's STRONG to TREAT them. Recovery is plain WORK and yes, it's hard at times, but very worth it. I have both these diseases and have run into a few of these ###*** online and off. They have their own problems they're not facing so they take that out on others who ARE working on recovery. The term for this is psychology is "projection". I'm so glad your wife is helping you with all this! I was also very blessed to have a family member who encouraged me to get help after the murders in my family (I started counseling a few months after the murders). Thanks for your kind words about my Mother. Her case and your Dad's blow apart the VERY popular lie in society that people in prisons and mental hospitals are sitting in recliner chairs all day watching cable TV ( : . Take care.
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