Jeanne Dotts Brykalski
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Post by Jeanne Dotts Brykalski on Jun 17, 2003 16:34:23 GMT -5
I have "done better" this year than in the past, but it has still been a hard and sad day. My family used birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, anything as a chance to get together and celebtrate. We may have been small in number, but we were large in love and fun. Bry, my husband, is on his way back from Ohio right now where he attended his one cousin's funeral (Long story,.... but it is a situation where he attended to keep the peace and out of respect for his mom's memory.) Anyway, this was the first holiday (father's day) and anniversary since HoneyBare (my parents' collie) died, and the house feels very empty and lonely without her. I guess I just wanted to check in with those who understand what I am feeling today without rolling their eyes and spouting meaningless platitudes. So in honor of my parents' anniversary, give someone you love a big hug for me in their memory. Thanks, Jeanne
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BethMariansChild
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Post by BethMariansChild on Jun 17, 2003 19:36:38 GMT -5
Jeanne,
I want you to know that I admire your courage and tenacity. It is so hard watch the memorial dates roll by and know that they are still gone. It never gets easy, but the pain does ease a bit over time. It never goes away, but it loses its' piercing nature, I think.
I'm sorry you have to be alone on this important day. I hope Bry hurries home to be with you and your pooches.
Hopefully I'm not spouting platitudes. I know I'm not rolling my eyes. I remember the seventh year after Mother died very well. I really didn't feel "awake" until that year.
I may spout off, but not platitudes. <wry smile>
Hugs to you both...
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Jeanne Dotts Brykalski
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Post by Jeanne Dotts Brykalski on Jun 18, 2003 17:16:11 GMT -5
Hi Bethie........ I knew you would understand. Not only because of what all you have been through, but because you are a true friend and have been my sounding board and shoulder to cry on many many times.
Later, Jeanne
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Post by Clarissa on Jun 21, 2003 14:37:05 GMT -5
Jeanne,
For whatever it's worth, every single lament like yours tears at my heart. I totally understand how you -- and everyone else here -- feels about the sad-iversaries, and empathize completely, but I don't reply much anymore. I feel as though what I write is like a broken record (repetetive), and even my most heart-felt sentiments begin to sound like "spouted platitudes". I know that my perception is probably off, but I still feel like the more often I write the same words, the less meaning they come to have -- and the last thing I want is for my words to come across as empty. Does this make any sense? Anyway, just know that I DO understand and hope you can find the happy memories and small diversions we all need to get thru "these" days.
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Post by Samantha - Urai's Daughter on Jun 22, 2003 9:09:25 GMT -5
I'm a little late responding (I have been swamped with work lately) but just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you this week.
Sadaverseries can be so hard... but it does help me to remember the good times rather than the bad.
(((HUGS)))
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