Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Dec 7, 2012 23:31:07 GMT -5
Here they come again - the holidays. So many things that should have (and could have) just been happy, now can be filled with triggers.
For those who might not yet know, Charlene is the wonderful lady who makes this board available to us so we can share. Some years ago she asked regular board members here if they could think of suggestions that might help some of us get through the holidays just a bit easier.
There is a link at the top "Holidays and Grief" that will take you to these helpful suggestions anytime you want to see. Or you could also click here:
www.murdervictims.com/Holidays.htm
I have tried some of those suggestions over the years that have helped me to get through the hard parts better. I hope there are some things in there that might help some of you too.
It is not so debilitating as it all was in the early years, but I still miss her so dam much. The big velveteen red ribbon with the angel and bells on it that her sister made me that first Christmas after - that is still one of my favorite decorations - the first one I put up this year, and hangs right next to my tree. Our tree has more angels and butterflies on it every year. I've already taken a little snowman to the cemetary for her (she loved Frosty and singing that song), and flowers, and just sat and talked "with her" for a while. Every parent thinks of all their children every day, and like any other mother so do I. That will never change.
Please feel free to let us know how you are remembering your loved ones, or anything that might have helped you get through those tough times and still enjoy the holidays with the rest of your family as much as possible anyway. Or what you need help with. We can always listen.
Love and hugs to all,
Janet
For those who might not yet know, Charlene is the wonderful lady who makes this board available to us so we can share. Some years ago she asked regular board members here if they could think of suggestions that might help some of us get through the holidays just a bit easier.
There is a link at the top "Holidays and Grief" that will take you to these helpful suggestions anytime you want to see. Or you could also click here:
www.murdervictims.com/Holidays.htm
I have tried some of those suggestions over the years that have helped me to get through the hard parts better. I hope there are some things in there that might help some of you too.
It is not so debilitating as it all was in the early years, but I still miss her so dam much. The big velveteen red ribbon with the angel and bells on it that her sister made me that first Christmas after - that is still one of my favorite decorations - the first one I put up this year, and hangs right next to my tree. Our tree has more angels and butterflies on it every year. I've already taken a little snowman to the cemetary for her (she loved Frosty and singing that song), and flowers, and just sat and talked "with her" for a while. Every parent thinks of all their children every day, and like any other mother so do I. That will never change.
Please feel free to let us know how you are remembering your loved ones, or anything that might have helped you get through those tough times and still enjoy the holidays with the rest of your family as much as possible anyway. Or what you need help with. We can always listen.
Love and hugs to all,
Janet