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Post by cpruitt78 on Aug 25, 2009 17:09:02 GMT -5
Forgiveness: is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.
I looked up the definition of forgiveness today and really realized that I have truely lost this ability when it comes to the murderer. I wanted to look at the definition to see how others can find a way to forgive when they have lost someone they love thru a murderer's hands or negligence of another person. I wanted to see if there was any part of the definition that I could relate to and process when I think of what happened to Tricey. In reading the definition I know for a fact there are just some things that it is beyond a human (some humans) to forgive. Tricey's murder is definately unforgivable in my book- I now know that forgiveness for the jerk that murdered Tricey doesn't lie between her children, her Momma, her brother's, her niece, myself or her friends- but rather lies between God and her murderer. Forgiveness isn't just simply something I wont give him- it's something I am incapable of giving him. I'm sure her Momma, children, brother's, niece and her friends feel the same way. Well, I KNOW her Momma, brother's, niece, and myself feel this way for sure. I think people say what sounds good. It sounds good to say that we have forgiven Kortney- We will never be at peace with what happened to Tricey- we will never be able to honestly say that we don't wish the worst out of life for Kortney. We can't say that we don't wish to harm him in the most malicious kind of ways. Although this may not be a very "christian" thing to say- I am being very honset about my feelings. I still consider myself a good person- but if memory serves me correctly in me not forgiving Kortney then doesn't that mean that by contemporary christian belief I have damned myself to Hell? I guess my response would be- aren't we already living it without Tricey? How can we be taught all our lives that if we ask for forgiveness - no matter what the sin was that God will redeem us and forgive us... But for those who are wronged that hold on to thier anger and cannot find it in their heart to forgive then we are sinning against Christ? I still love God don't get me wrong but why am I seeing such parallels between our justice system and religion... I see where the guilty / sinners have more rights than the victims- Maybe it's just my take on it the more I think about it... This would have been a great discussion for Tricey and I to have if she were still here and could reply... She loved to debate / express her opinion- as do I- Just thought this was a great discussion to start here to see if anyone feeld the way I do-
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Post by pumpkin12903 on Aug 27, 2009 10:08:20 GMT -5
Forgiveness: is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.I looked up the definition of forgiveness today and really realized that I have truely lost this ability when it comes to the murderer. I wanted to look at the definition to see how others can find a way to forgive when they have lost someone they love thru a murderer's hands or negligence of another person. I wanted to see if there was any part of the definition that I could relate to and process when I think of what happened to Tricey. In reading the definition I know for a fact there are just some things that it is beyond a human (some humans) to forgive. Tricey's murder is definately unforgivable in my book- I now know that forgiveness for the jerk that murdered Tricey doesn't lie between her children, her Momma, her brother's, her niece, myself or her friends- but rather lies between God and her murderer. Forgiveness isn't just simply something I wont give him- it's something I am incapable of giving him. I'm sure her Momma, children, brother's, niece and her friends feel the same way. Well, I KNOW her Momma, brother's, niece, and myself feel this way for sure. I think people say what sounds good. It sounds good to say that we have forgiven Kortney- We will never be at peace with what happened to Tricey- we will never be able to honestly say that we don't wish the worst out of life for Kortney. We can't say that we don't wish to harm him in the most malicious kind of ways. Although this may not be a very "christian" thing to say- I am being very honset about my feelings. I still consider myself a good person- but if memory serves me correctly in me not forgiving Kortney then doesn't that mean that by contemporary christian belief I have damned myself to Hell? I guess my response would be- aren't we already living it without Tricey? How can we be taught all our lives that if we ask for forgiveness - no matter what the sin was that God will redeem us and forgive us... But for those who are wronged that hold on to thier anger and cannot find it in their heart to forgive then we are sinning against Christ? I still love God don't get me wrong but why am I seeing such parallels between our justice system and religion... I see where the guilty / sinners have more rights than the victims- Maybe it's just my take on it the more I think about it... This would have been a great discussion for Tricey and I to have if she were still here and could reply... She loved to debate / express her opinion- as do I- Just thought this was a great discussion to start here to see if anyone feeld the way I do- I had to give it up to God. I had to pray to forgive. To be honest, it took several years for me to get to that point. I'll NEVER condone what my Mother did, EVER! It was EVIL and nothing will ever change that: her TRUE remorse, her true mental illness, etc. Yes, those things and others were obviously factors of what happened, but despite them, it doesn't take away the evil of what she did. Please don't let ANYONE tell you what to do with this issue! I'm sick and tired of people being screamed at for either forgiving or NOT forgiving. I'm SICK OF IT! Speaking of the spiritual aspect of all this, I highly recommend talking to a spiritual expert. I did this during my recovery work and it was a wonderful help! It brought me at least some peace with the whole issue. I hope what I've told you helps and hope others will explain their choice also. Take care.
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Aug 27, 2009 13:06:44 GMT -5
What wonderful posts, ladies. This seems to be such a hard thing for all of us to figure out, and for most I know in the face to face world who have come to any decisions about it - it took them years to get there too.
These questions came up in every MVS support group I have ever been to. I think what makes me most furious is when someone thinks they can force us to believe as they do, or says we will be condemned if we do not do as they believe. Well, the only condemnation I have personally seen is from those who would say those things - to try to force us to their beliefs.
I asked someone face to face once, someone who had been harassing me about this - if you believe forgiveness should be so readily available to the murderer who took someone's whole life from them, how can you not believe I could be forgiven for simply being angry at the murderer? If it is a sin, if that is even true, then didn't Jesus die for my sins too?
Those people who would judge us for forgiving or not - well all I will say is "Judge not lest ye be judged". I am happy for whatever path helps each of us to cope, to learn to walk around in this a bit stronger over time, and yes, to find those precious moments of peace. I think the right paths can be different for each person, as different as people can be.
I too have decided that I would never be able to forgive the murderers. I've had several very good friends in the face to face world that have tried to do that, for their own reasons. And all but one has told me that it is an "ongoing process". And I could easily see why it would be. With the triggers that we have to the traumatic memories, how many times would I be faced with trying to do that over and over again every time something triggers that reaction again? I won't give my life to the murderer that way. Ours is not a family or acquaintance situation. I never knew them before (and neither did our Bethena). They were never part of our lives or our world before, and without a doubt I wish they never ever had been.
I have been able to honestly pray a couple of times - to ask God to help them repent, and save their souls, if it is God's will. I have never felt that anyone should have been trying to burden me further with that responsibility. I was not the one who was murdered (obviously, I am still here). Bethena has sent me many messages, and none of them have been about forgiveness. The messages have been of comfort to us, and of wanting justice and protection of others from them. And I believe and hope that Bethena and Ron and Beau (all of their known victims) will be standing next to God on the murderers' days of judgment, and that if any part of it is anyone's decision other than God's, it would be theirs.
So yes, I struggled with that one for years, but that is the struggle that I've given up to God. I will leave the question of the murderers forgiveness to Him. He can look into their hearts and know if any repentance is true, as I cannot.
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Post by tamècasmom on Sept 1, 2009 10:35:27 GMT -5
I know I have made mistakes and I know I will make more mistakes while I am on this earth. Albeit none of my errors in judgments’ was as horrific as murder, when my judgment day arrives, God will judge me on my life. I know I would like to be forgiven for my ugly ways in God’s eyes as well as the person on earth who might have been hurt by my errors in judgment. How can one want forgiveness when one is not really to give forgive? Is the question I often asked myself when it came to forgiving the unknown murderer of my beloved daughter.
I forgave the unknown murderer for my eternal life not the unknown murderer’s life. My goal on earth is to do whatever I need to do so I too can go to heaven where my beloved angel Tameca now resides. Bottom line I want to become God’s angel one day! I believe the only way to make it heaven is to forgive as I want to be forgiven.
I am not here to judge any one for what is in their heart. I believe every MVS must decide to forgive or not to forgive. My choice is to forgive and I am very pleased with my choice. My choice to forgive has allowed my heart to feel love again and give love to my daughter’s children.
My daughter’s children have their whole lives in front of them I do not want them to have hard hearts because some stupid fool stole their mother’s life. Children learn by example therefore, I want to give Tameca’s children the best example I can so they can live and love.
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Post by taterfay on Sept 2, 2009 15:24:40 GMT -5
According to the definition originally posted I don't think I can or ever will forgive. I have let go of a lot of my anger and I do think that the murderer is mentally ill, but I cannot ever condone what he did and I will never get to the point of thinking that he doesn't need or deserve punishment (to me that is in prison, I'm not worrying about what happens to him after he dies...) With that, said, though, I try not to waste any precious time at all even thinking about him anymore. That brings me relief.
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Post by bel on Sept 8, 2009 9:54:54 GMT -5
I will never forgive the person who murdered my sister, especially as he will not speak and is pleading not guilty dragging our family through an open court case publicly. However I will not hate him as I believe If I go down the hate path I will become a bitter person & that will destroy me as a person and has already destroyed and taken two innocent lives in the horrific crime that he did. I HATE everything about what he did that night, taking my sisters lives, the other males lives, how he did the murder, everything I hate about his actions. If that makes sense. I would rather focus on my sisters life and cherish that and he will get what is coming to him from the universe for the crime that he committed then answer to the big man above on judgement day.
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Post by cpruitt78 on Sept 8, 2009 11:10:48 GMT -5
I too do not give the murderer the glory to occupy my mind or my heart- I have a whole lotta love to give and I dont think of myself as a bitter person. I have been fighting within myself to forgive- I see others that say they can forgive a murderer's decision to take their loved ones life. I mearly looked up the definition of forgiveness to see if there was any part of the definition that I myself could relate to - after reading it - I know that I can not forgive the man that murdered my loved one- it is not in me to do so. After reading that definition I also realized that I believe that some acts that are commited on this earth are truely beyond us to forgive. I believe forgiveness for some thing lie between God and that person. My decision not to forgive- well that lies between myself and God also. I think that God is a understanding God and knows that we as humans are not perfect- if God can forgive the murderer then I am sure he can forgive me (at least I hope) if not- it still doesn't change the fact of how I feel and will likely continue to feel about Tricey's murder. It's not like I am unwilling to forgive- I just can not find it within myself to do so. As I said earlier Forgiveness is not something I am unwilling to give him- it's something I am incapable of giving him.
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Post by anakahashi008 on Sept 8, 2009 21:22:12 GMT -5
Great posts and interesting that I never thought to actually look up the definition of forgiveness.
With the 2nd anniversary of the murders approaching, I really can't be bothered with entertaining the idea. They still continue to steal from me and everyone by living their miserable lives in prison. I still haven't paid my taxes due to this same reluctance, and I know, I know I have to or uncle sam will send me where they are but I still feel extra ripped off. I know overall I'm still a good person but this anger still sits inside me and sears when I encounter triggers.
To me there is nothing wrong with not forgiving them. I'm not Christian and I don't have the give it up to a higher being thought process but for some that brings comfort. I'm not sure there is any comfort I'll find in this aside from doing my best to enjoy the moments that are possible to enjoy in life. Knowing that before my friends were murdered they were doing just that- enjoying life.
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Post by tamècasmom on Sept 9, 2009 7:08:25 GMT -5
I don't give a nickel about man's definition of forgiveness, my ONLY concern is God's definition. I looked for my definition of forgiveness in the Bible not a book written my man that changes with the times.
With the above said I still believe it is up to each MVS to decide for themselves.
The 23rd of this month will be the fourth time my daughter's murder date has come around and I won't concentrate on the murderer I will concentrate on our family's loss. The murderer does not encompass my life because I know the murderer does not give one hoot about what I think or feel. Heck, the murderer does not know who I am just like I don't know who he is.
The only time I think of forgiving the murderer now is when the topic comes up on this site. I must get back to my new life I have spent too much time on this subject, again.
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Post by cpruitt78 on Sept 9, 2009 10:10:59 GMT -5
Unfortunately for most here this subject will continue to appear as more people encounter having to go thru this process of grieving for a murdered loved one. We will continue to have to address this issue and several others- that is the blessing of this site - to be able to discuss these issues. All though we may have different views of the same issue- i find it very helpful to be able to discuss how I feel. As far as man's definition vs God's definition of forgiveness - different books, yes - different meaning, no. Unfortantely unless we have the original text in which the Bible was written - parts have been lost in translation and some books of the Bible have been completely left out due to man's decisions. Many books of the Bible continue to be found today. So to me the Bible is man made as well. I am by no means discounting it's contents - I have my own relationship with God- and like any relationship it is by no means perfect. Different people can read the same passage in scripture and get two totally different perspectives from it. Just as we do here. By discussing this issue of forgiveness I do not feel I am entertaining the murderer's thoughts or feelings but rather validating my own. I also think that alot of people say what sounds good. Yes, it would sound wonderful for me to say that I am at a point in my recovery that I can accept what happened and forgive the murder. The thought and the notion in and of itself sounds good. Yet I am choosing to be honest with myself and others about how I feel. If you ask me how I am doing - I don't say fine. If I am having a bad day- I will say so. I think it is so very important and crucial to our recovery from losing a loved one to murder to validate how we are feeling. To be honest with ourselves and those around us. I am no longer ashamed of my inability to cope at times, I am no longer ashamed to tell people I am still angry, I am no longer ashamed to feel exactly how I feel. I refuse to bottle up my feelings until I explode. Or act like the feelings I have do not exist. On the same note if I am having a good day I will say so- I even come here to share the good days because they can be far in between but I want others to know there is a silver lining sometimes. Some days I have thoughts of my Angel Tricey and smile because she did exist and I find myself feeling divinely favored that I was able to share my life with her and I have many precious memories that I will treasure in my heart until our next lifetime. I share my feelings and thoughts here because I want to reach out to others here that may feel like I do- Maybe thier response may open my eyes to something that will help me in my quest to dealing with my loss...
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Post by tamècasmom on Sept 9, 2009 12:19:08 GMT -5
You misunderstood me I think forgiveness is a good subject for this site just not for ME! Because like you my mind is made up! I am not trying to convince any one nor am I trying to figure out another person's relationship with God I am too busy working on my relationship with God.
Bottom line my post was about me and no one else.
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Post by cpruitt78 on Sept 9, 2009 13:19:26 GMT -5
No Hun! :0) You just made some great points that I had a opinion on to! No worries! Your reply just mearly made me further share my thoughts!
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Post by tamècasmom on Sept 9, 2009 13:27:27 GMT -5
Whew! We have enough on our plates because some fool took our beloved ones I did not want you to think I was trying to add more. Dawn
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Post by cpruitt78 on Sept 9, 2009 13:45:30 GMT -5
No worries!!! I know what you mean though! Believe me I do sometimes have my days where I can be a bit oversensitive- it's usually around special Holidays or her Angelversary. But on a normal day sharing my thoughts helps me keep sanity! LoL! :0)
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Post by wordup on Sept 11, 2009 0:21:20 GMT -5
This is a very interesting topic, I have read all of the feedback, and found nothing wrong with anything anyone said, I say to you, do what feels right to you and in time you will be where you need to be,( in your heart, mind and soul.) (with this issue) I hope this make sense. Take care everyone. Kathy
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Post by cpruitt78 on Nov 23, 2009 22:15:07 GMT -5
2nd Angelversary tomorrow- and I have to say- It's rough... Really , really rough... Forgiveness for me isn't going to be something I am capable of giving. It's not that I don't want to- I can't - Does that make sense? I want to forgive to rid my heart of the darkness that lies there just for him. For mour loss- the anger is maddening- I would love to let it go... Than I find myself back to square one - I read the definition of forgiveness and I just know that I can't... How can I? When so much was taken. O well... Today is probably not the day to revisit this issue anyhow-
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Post by c21king2queen on Nov 29, 2009 17:27:18 GMT -5
God teaches us forgiveness through his teachings in the Bible. That is where I am struggling. On one hand I am a christian and wish that I could forgive. On the other hand, no one should be above the law. We should all be held accountable and responsible for actions. No one should be allowed to get away with murder. The people responsible for my husband's murder broke the ten commandments. Others involved in this case have also sinned. I don't believe God condones this type of behavior. I don' t condone this type of behavior. My husband's murder case has not been to trial yet. The way the DA is treating this case, apparently he is on the side of violent criminals. My husband's murder was a premeditated murder. They spent months planning his murder. Any one involved in this could have stopped it at any time before he was murdered. How can I ever forgive those responsible for taking my husband's life, the love of my life, father of my only child, while my son misses out on one of the most important things in life that is knowing the love between a father and son? How can I ever forgive these people? May'be before I die I will find it in my heart to forgive. I will certainly never forget what I have been through. I will find a way to go on with my life and continue raising my fatherless child. It is my mission to raise my autistic son to be healthy, happy, smart, independent, and successful. I will remind him everyday of his father's love.
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Post by purples on Nov 29, 2009 21:13:39 GMT -5
I wish i had in in my heart to forgive/ but the fact is- I don't! I cant forget or forgive what has happened. I too am raising my child alone, except in this case my baby's dad is the murderer. I now have his family hounding me to let her go see him. every week his mother calls wanting to know if she can take my child up there to see him. He didnt care that she was here when he shot him. he didnt care that she saw all the blood, and now for them to think i'm gonna let my daughter go see him is insane! Oh he talks to her on the phone, and he tells her he loves her, but if he really loved her- he would have thought about how her life would be w/o him. I feel like he took himself away from her, so let it be like that -- far far away. I have spoke to the priest and talked to the counslers, but its not in me to forgive him! esp when he has no remorse!
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Post by cpruitt78 on Nov 30, 2009 14:19:33 GMT -5
I think we all have our quirks where this issue is concerned- and I do NOT judge anyone for how they feel... Each one of us has the right to feel exactly how we feel and we have the right to be honest about our feelings... For me it's not that I don't want to forgive- I do, I want to let go of the anger and resentment... However, I am honest with myself and I am honest with others when I am asked how I feel or have I forgiven. No I haven't. I revisit the issue often- for me it all goes back to the definition of forgiveness and when I read the definition I know that forgiveness for this act is something I am just not capable of giving. Just becasue the term forgiveness "sounds good" doesn't mean that it is something that I am required to give. For me forgiveness is now between the offender and God. It's God's call. Yet as far as forgiveness in my heart- that's my call and I'm not ready and I will not apologize for how I feel or make someone believe that I have forgiven. I will not alow another person to dictate how I feel, or tell me I should forgive or Im going to hell- I am entitled to be hurt, I am entitled to ne pist I am entitled to feel hatred- Im entitled. We all are. Remember to be honest how you are feeling - and when someone asks you how you feel and they don't like the answer- tell them not to ask if they don't want the honest answer....
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Post by cpruitt78 on Nov 30, 2009 14:27:55 GMT -5
Forgiveness: is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.
Just a reminder on the definition...
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Post by michealzogg2000 on Jan 28, 2010 10:24:01 GMT -5
as its only been 15 mos since my daughter and her unborn daughter were murdered,add to the violence of it,then add what a joke the legal system in illinois is,forgiveness is something i cannot give..the hatred and burning anger i have not just towards the murderer,but towards his family and the legal system too,forgivness from me is impossible at this time
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Post by Janet-Beth's Mom on Jan 28, 2010 12:23:40 GMT -5
Dear michaelzogg,
I am so sorry your daughter was taken from you. It will be 9 years in this coming May for us, and I feel much the same way. I will never understand why anyone would even ask this of us or expect us to, especially after such atrocities where no one is even sorry for what they have done. My heart goes out to you so very much.
Janet
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Post by c21king2queen on Jan 29, 2010 16:45:01 GMT -5
I can't even consider forgiveness at this time. I know that God teaches us to forgive. It is the Christian way. I cannot forgive while there has been no justice, I have unanswered questions and unresolved issues. I don't know if I can ever forgive for what they did to my husband and what they have done to my son and I since my husband was murdered. May'be if they could all be held accountable and responsible for their actions and sentenced for their crimes, then may'be I could begin to forgive at least somewhat. How can you really and totally forgive people who have no consciense or remorse? These people could have stopped it before it happened. They could have admitted to what they did, apologized and tried to do the right thing. No one seems to want to do the right thing in this case, not the murderers, not Law Enforcement, or the DA's Office. At least my most recent meeting at the DA's office seemed to go well. I am keeping my fingers crossed and praying that what we discussed will work out as we hope. My prayers are with other victims. I hope that you all can see some justice and some peace.
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Post by starkiss on Jan 30, 2010 2:46:46 GMT -5
R u serious! "...cessing to demand punishment or restitution." Thats what forgiveness is? Really? I am not suppose to want the person to pay for taking the life of a person I love? WooooW!!! I am not suppose to want the person punished for what they did? Well in that case forgiveness is no where in me! I feel right now that I will never forgive the person who did this. I will always hate him at least that is the way I feel right now. Wow!!! I guess me and God will have a conversation about this when I see him.
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Post by tamècasmom on Jan 31, 2010 8:01:50 GMT -5
Wanted to make a note.
I am raising my murdered daughter's oldest daughter.
My granddaughter was there when the murder happened! Because of the Grace of God her life was spared! I count my blessing!
Forgive or not to forgive? Only you can answer.
Tameca's mother
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Post by cpruitt78 on Feb 11, 2010 23:13:11 GMT -5
I too am raising my sister-n-law's youngest daughter- who at the time of her death was 18 days old... Her sperm donor commited the crime- so my husband and I are raising her with all the love and security we can muster... I revisit thsi forgiveness topic often because for me- it's important that I try. I'm making an effort to heal - but what gets me and validates my feelings is when I simply read the definition of forgiveness- Everytime that seals the deal. I don't know what tomorrow may bring... God and I have been working on alot of my flaws lately. I know with God the impossible can become possible- So I don't doubt that it's possible- However for me I just don't think it is probable. And today I am still saying forgiveness for me is something I just can't give.
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Post by Charlene on Feb 12, 2010 9:04:42 GMT -5
I don't think that refusing to forgive murder is a flaw. You are right to spend your energy on raising your sweet little niece instead of worrying about how to forgive something that you perceive as unforgiveable.
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Post by tamècasmom on Feb 14, 2010 10:22:16 GMT -5
Cpruitt78,
I agree with Charlene.
I also agree with you. You should continue to post about forgiveness until you are comfortable with your decision. From my point of view that is why this site is a God-send we can post without being judged!
Dawn
P. S. Like you to know. The murderer of my beloved Tameca hollered her then boyfriend's name when he came in her home the day he murdered her. My daughter had a child with this person. This person has taken his child from us. We are not blessed to have contact with her.
Our family waits patiently because we know parent power only last for so long. A person grows up and makes decisions and conclusions on their own. I will share all the paperwork I have with my youngest granddaughter when the time comes. This includes the court papers where I try to take her from her father. I would do it all over again because my beloved daughter told several people including me if anything happens to me, please raise my daughter's. I had to honor my murdered daughter's wish and give it all I had to try and raise her daughter's!
My oldest daughter remembers the words of her mother. My oldest granddaughter told her dad she wanted to live with me because that is what her mommy told her to do. It took three years before our prayers were answered. God teaches patience.
My heartaches when I see the sadness in my granddaughter's eyes when she talks about her sister. I explain to her it is out of our control ask God to intercede through pray. Unfortunately my daughter's baby was not old enough to know she has a wonderful and loving sister and brother who miss her dearly and talk about her often.
Once again I count my blessing my granddaughter and her brother stay in contact with each other. At least they have each other my youngest granddaughter has a lop-sided life she only sees one side of her family. Her loss and our loss!
Sorry for the rambling I guess I needed to express myself after my grandmother and granddaughter talk yesterday.
Dawn
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Post by cpruitt78 on Feb 19, 2010 17:38:33 GMT -5
Wow! Dawn- so many similarities to our situation... My niece has 2 older sisters that had a different Dad- he has custody and we aren't allowed to see them- so hurtful... To everyone involved... Prior to thier Mom's death we we're heavily involved in thier lives... We miss them so much and want them to be close to thier little sister that we are raising... But it looks like we are going to have to wait until they are of age to make thier own decisions... I am so sorry you are enduring much of the same heartache.... You would think people would not add to the pain we are already enduring...
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Post by tamècasmom on Feb 20, 2010 12:17:52 GMT -5
Cpruitt78,
Yes it is sad that our families have to endure unnecessary and uncalled for pain. How sad we have so many things in common.
Thinking of you and said a prayer for your family.
Death will never replace the life Tameca and I shared as mother and daughter.
Tameca's mother in life and in death!
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